Mydelilah(dom female){juststeve}
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4 years ago •
Feb 4, 2021
How much more?
I forgave
Starting anew Welcomed the journey Started to be happy I trusted again You didn't stick to the rules Then you sent pictures How could either of you not know how inappropriate it was How much more???????? |
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House Talion(dom male)
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4 years ago •
Feb 4, 2021
They break the rules, they get punished. Its that simple. To make it a hit easier on any reading this you can take a note from my book: I tell all subs and slaves to give me a list of punishments and a list of rewards which all are tested prior to relationship consideration
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SubtleHush(sub female)
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4 years ago •
Feb 9, 2021
Mydelilah(dom female){juststeve}
How much more? Dr. Phil was right. You teach people how to treat you. People who push boundaries and break rules are testing the waters. If you allow, they will go further and further. They will always be out there. The ownness is on you to grow and develop yourself. Be strong in your knowledge. Be clear in your deal breakers and when one is violated, you shut it down. Learn to trust yourself. That is the only trust you can garner in the early days. And when you make a decision based on strength not hurt, you will still be sad to end it but stronger in what you do want. How much more? It is a long road to finding a sustainable partnership. As hard as it is, be patient. If you aren't the patient type... learn. ................ House Talion(dom male) "They break the rules, they get punished. It's that simple. To make it a hit easier on any reading this you can take a note from my book: I tell all subs and slaves to give me a list of punishments and a list of rewards which all are tested prior to relationship consideration." ........... So you test people before you decide them worthy of you? (Delilah don't let anyone test you as if you have anything to prove. These are co-created relationships and there is no need for testing until and unless you both decide it once there is a real relationship.) And you are trying to get her to ask about your book? Wow just wow LOL |
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My Dear{Trust}
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4 years ago •
Feb 10, 2021
SubtleHush, I think you badly misinterpreted House Talion's response. I get what he is saying...and it is not that MyDelilah should be tested, at least, not the way I read it; but, that she should do the testing. That is a normal part of a consideration phase for many people that MyDelilah unfortunately neither knew about or had the opportunity for.
MD, if rules were broken then punishment as stated should be carried out. The one thing a submissive needs above almost all else is consistency - IMHO. You set the boundaries. If they are crossed, then the consequences must be faced. I say that with a single grain of salt - as I am only reading your side of things today. Here's the rub: were you consistent in your role, position, duties, responsibilities, etc as Domme? Accountability goes both ways, as does responsibility for the integrity of the dynamic. Therefore, if not (or if so even) i believe a brief, direct conversation is needed. Just as you would explain the wrongs committed by child to that child and why they are being punished, you should make sure that your sub knows this as well. Then you must follow through with the previously discussed consequences. (Sorry Steve, I would say the same to Anyone...in OR out of This Lifestyle.) Afterwards another conversation is due, one in which the rules and expectations are reminded/reinforced and in which the consequences for non-adherance is discussed. Good luck, and always act with intent, not out of anger or vengeance. md |
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Virginie(sub female){lcpw}
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4 years ago •
Feb 10, 2021
i firmly believe that the people who made the commitment are the ones to be held responsible. There is one absolute and knowable truth there: the people who made the commitment promised to do and not to do a particular set of things. If another person enters the picture the issue is we have no way of knowing what they were really told. We want to believe the ones we know, love etc.. because its easier to take out hurt and anger and aim it at the third party. Its a struggle i know but theres one person here you want to move forward with? thats the person you need to focus on. If someone who made such a huge commitment lied- i tend to think theyre more than capable of repeating it with others. Im not saying third parties are blameless or should bear no responsibility- i just think its a totally different thing. Especially if you do not want to keep them enmeshed in your relationship.
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