Brats

WhiteRoses​(sub female) • Mar 14, 2021

I have and it was. I normally would end up encouraging her behavior because I enjoy it. It was too much fun not to.

SlaveEric​(other trans man){Master Cal} • Mar 14, 2021

As a fellow brat, I understand. It took a while to find my Dom. Others would ghost me. My advice, ask how they handle brats or if they even like brats, before telling them your a brat. Not lying, just testing the waters beforehand. And also instead of going for the normal doms, seek out a brat tamer, they love having a brat. Its in their job description lol. Now, Im just offering friendly advice. I really do hope you find the Dom that is the right fit for you.

Re: Brats

Boetius​(dom male) • Mar 14, 2021

Do you have any pressing reason to advertise yourself by using the term 'brat'? In my DDlg experience, if a little girl says she likes/wants a silly or playful Daddy, I understand that she is a brat in the sense you have just described about yourself. The give-and-take banter provides an opportunity for fun flirtation, and I love it! On the other hand, a little girl who wears her brat-hood as a badge of honor and stuffs it in my face, I avoid as I would the plague because she may well be.

KatinkaLee​(sub female) • Mar 14, 2021

Why do you advertise as a Daddy Dom? Why are you attracted to Baby Girls or Littles? If you can wear your labels as a badge of honor why can't we?

Forgive me but you are perpetuating that being a brat is something negative. For me being a brat is fun and playful and not something I should need to hide. The reason we "advertise" is exactly for situations like this to avoid connecting with someone who does not understand the inner workings of a brat.

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LittleSubFox​(sub female) • Mar 14, 2021

What other advertisement am I supposed to give? Are you telling me I shouldn't call myself a brat? I should lie and just not let people know? There's no other way to describe my personality. It's just a part of me. I don't like the term because it makes it seem like the person is just a plain little sjit and I hate it. Sp what else am I supposed to call it? I can't just not let people know. That'd be lying by omission. Not every DD is gonna automatically think that their little is gonna be a brat. Your comment is just plain confusing.

Boetius​(dom male) • Mar 14, 2021

Your comment is fallaciously beside the point being made; however, wear what you will because it matters not to me. I was simply responding with my viewpoint to the OP.



Please read my post again, and quit perpetuating your nonsense about what I stated.



Okay, then perhaps you might consider advertising your fun and playfulness. Again, read my post.



If the term “brat” connotes a potential nutcase for some folks, perhaps you might reconsider your label. But in the end it’s your choice. Just know that some folks will not engage you for good reason.

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LunarEclipse​(sub female) • Mar 14, 2021

Being a "brat" and "bratting" can mean different things. A brat is a subset of D/s just the same as being a "daddy" is. Littles may brat for fun but deep down they are a little who brats. Whereas I consider myself a brat, not a little, just a submissive brat.

Please do not ask anyone not to "advertise" who they are. That can be extremely damaging to a person's psyche. You are welcome to be a DD and prefer littles who occasionally brat as opposed to someone who has a much deeper connection to what it means to be a brat. However, I would politely request that you choose your words carefully as making a statement such as "a little girl who wears her brat-hood as a badge of honor and stuffs it in my face, I avoid as I would the plague because she may well be" is not only hurtful but extremely narrow-minded.

I am not interested in DD/lg myself but I would never seek to speak ill of that particular dynamic simply because it isn't my cup of tea. Please respect all subsets regardless of your particular tastes.

KatinkaLee​(sub female) • Mar 14, 2021

I only seek to educate you and open your mind a bit yet you cut down everything I say without truly trying to engage in a healthy discourse. Never once did I lash out at you directly in any way. Perhaps I had hoped that this site would provide an opportunity to improve communication and help squelch stereotypes but as they say, you can lead a horse to water.

Best of luck to you.

Re: Brats

Boetius​(dom male) • Mar 14, 2021

No, it is not my place to tell you anything. I simply gave you my view on the matter.


Why say anything specific to the point? If you possess a disagreeable level of brattiness, it will be evident during vetting.


Your comment is self-limiting.


Okay, so?


Then don't use it.


Promote your positive qualities which contribute to your so-called brattiness.


Nonsense. Rephrase the term.


That may be true, but I have found a degree of 'brat' in every woman I've known - vanilla or otherwise. Some were good 'brats', some were bad.


Yes, it may well be. Anyway, this thread has been a good reflection on this topic for me. Thank you.

Re: Brats

Boetius​(dom male) • Mar 14, 2021

Okay, your points are well taken.


Please don't put words in my mouth.


If this is true, perhaps a public forum is the wrong place to be.


Any face-stuffing brat is not that fragile.


Until you make the case for this charge, I will dismiss it as a fallacious ad hom.


You have a nasty habit of mischaracterizing what I have stated. Again, do not put words in my mouth.