Do You Feel Pressured To Show More Of Your Body Online?

Do You Feel Pressured To Show More Of Your Body Online?

Secret Mind​(dom male) • Sep 24, 2022

In the past recent years. Have you begun to take/share/post more sexual pictures of yourself?

If so, what do you think has helped play a part in that?

Was it something you grew into?
Is it simply for attention?
Was it something you've always seen yourself doing?
Or
Did you feel pressured by seeing other women doing it and felt that you needed to do the same?
Or
Was it something that you weren't comfortable with at first but then began to grow into more?

And for the woman/men who haven't or don't post such provocative things, why haven't you? What keeps you from wanting to do such things?

When I say "provocative" pictures/ videos. I mean nudes of yourself, topless, bottomless, full nudes, and half nudes. Not sexy lingerie pictures

The reason I'm asking is that I'm finding more and more women posting extremely provocative pictures and videos. Spreding it open for all of the world to see. And I'd like to understand why this is happing more and more. With women who before wouldn't have dared to do such things. I want to get to the root cause of it all.

No fighting and allow everyone to have their answer and opinion. Even if you don't like them or what they said, be respectful.
Be an adult.

RoseUndressed​(sub female) • Sep 24, 2022

I should begin by saying that i don't see nudity as particularly provocative - not in all circumstances. Nor an inheritently sexual act. I frequently strip off to swim in Rivers and lakes. There is little sexy about the cold, hair bedraggled, nose dripping creature that I emerge as. Thrare people who stumble across me would probably agree.

Now, sharing nudes ...

For me, my photography is my art and my body my canvas. The body is one of the most powerful expressions. In nudity, it is at its most vulnerable, most open, most real. For some of my images, it is that vulnerability I seek to portray and share.
That is why I will happily show my body - spreading it for the world to see.

For others? Well, I cannot speak for all. But my clients, those who come to me for a portrait session, they are often scared of nudity. The fear is mostly driven by insecurities, many of those fuelled by social media and societal expectations of a perfect body, and their failure to meet such exacting standards. But, through seeing themselves through a lens, they often grow in confidence. Clothes are shed, the body revealed. Many share those photos- share their new found confidence. "I am me. This is my body. I accept it."
Of course, many like the validation they receive from that also.

For my own part - you compliment my body (which I am not particularly confident in but still don't seek the validation of others about) and you probably won't get a response. You compliment my artistry, and that is another thing entirely.

Banféinní​(sub female) • Sep 24, 2022

To answer your title question, no I personally have never felt pressured to post nudes. I also never felt a need to compete with those who chose to share themselves on a public forum.

I agree with RoseUndressed that photography using the medium of the human form can be art. Personally I feel there are pictures which are truly art, some are even breathtaking. Then there are many that I would say are something else. I prefer not to view the pictures which, in my opinion, lack a creative presentation. I enjoy photography and the use of angles and various lighting, so my personal opinion is more about the presentation rather than the fact it is a nude. Regardless of intent or style, to each their own and it would be wrong of me to judge.

Ask 100 people why they choose to post nudes and you will most likely get 100 different answers. Each reason stemming from a series of past experiences, mindsets and desires. For myself personally I chose never to publicly post anything which gave the audience a frontal view “below the belt”. That said I did choose for a period of time to capture and publicly post partial nudes in an artistic manner. I did so in effort to reconnect with my femininity and sensuality. My past experiences had created a disconnect. Seeing myself in the photos helped me to see my body in a different way. Hearing the comments of others allowed me to develop a better understanding of how I am perceived by others. This helped to unravel the negative words of those in my past which were meant to demean and harm. I was able really see the physical beauty and embrace the curves and lines of the female form. Even more so embrace my own form.

Since I achieved the goal to reconnect to my sensuality and rebuild my self confidence, I have taken down the photos from the public I used for this activity. The experience pushed me far beyond my comfort zone (oversized hoodies and loose clothing) and fostered personal growth.
I no longer feel the need nor desire to share photos of my body with anyone but my partner.

Zelia • Sep 24, 2022

‘Personally I feel there are pictures which are truly art, some are even breathtaking. Then there are many that I would say are something else. I prefer not to view the pictures which, in my opinion, lack a creative presentation.’

Way to put down people who choose to post pictures that don’t meet your ‘creative presentation’ standards.

People post for a whole manner of reasons. I post when I’m objectified, and am deep in the mindset of being nothing but flesh for enjoyment. Are my pictures always creative, no 🥰 do I care, no.

RoseUndressed​(sub female) • Sep 24, 2022

Art is simply defined as what the perceiver enjoys. If you enjoy your pictures, then they art. That is all that matters.

I also believe there isn't a line between art and pornography, which I believe is the something other mention above. There is an old Victorian series called The Cunnyseurs which questions the difference between the two. In the artists mind, as in mine, there is no difference. They are one and the same.

Banféinní​(sub female) • Sep 24, 2022

It was not my intent to shame nor offend.

The comment was simply my personal preference regarding photographic presentation. I did not intend to stop, shame nor take away from the intent of the individual posting.

Art is left to interpretation so that it may impact each of us in different ways. No one interpretation is right, wrong or bad. That is the beauty in creative expression.

You have a personal preference as to how and why you choose to post pictures. I fully support support the freedom of choice and the diversity of unique viewpoints.
The expression of individuality is wonderful - post away!

MasterBear​(other butch) • Sep 25, 2022

The reasons are as many as the people who do them.

I posted some semi nudes a long time ago- it was very very freeing.

The feedback was very validating.

I did it for me. To push my boundaries.
Worth it.

Bunnie • Sep 25, 2022

Personally, yes, I do feel pressured. I’m 40. Not only do I feel within myself that I am transitioning from youth into something else (I’ll just say womanhood for the sake of ease), it also feels like society is shifting its perspective of me based on this transition also. How much of this is real and how much of this is my own perception, I’m not quite sure… but it has been interesting… and if I’m completely transparent, confronting.

Couple that with the fact that times are simply different now from when I was in my late teens or early twenties. Girls are much more comfortable with their bodies and sexuality. As much as I love this and am thankful that my generation could play a part in creating that for them , it makes the gap feel even bigger than perhaps it may have been in previous generations (?). I didn’t grow up to have the confidence to flaunt my body or my sexuality, and I envy those who can with such a beautiful ease.

I guess my point is that at this time in both my life and our society, there is a pressure to not feel like I’m simply disappearing. The need to be desired has never been something I’ve strived for, but it does seem to be presenting more and more. Will that ever lead me to posting pics of myself more than I already do (which is pretty rarely)? I’ve actually been thinking about this lately. It’s something I’ve been contemplating exploring, to be honest. A fear to perhaps overcome. Sometimes I think, a girl just wants to feel wanted

Oops, to answer your questions more specifically, I believe that the thinking is different nowadays. I grew up with a mindset that subtlety was sexy, things were left to the imagination… books were the gateway to imagination… entertainment was about creativity. There was a very distinct understanding of what was real and what wasn’t. That has shifted more towards a desire to know what exists behind the curtains. No one wants to believe in magic anymore… they want to know how it’s done… see behind the curtains. Imagination, subtlety, leaving things to remain unknown, are concepts of the past I think. We see this in all areas, so I think it makes sense that we would see it online also.

A Cloud​(sub female){Owned} • Sep 25, 2022

I am drawn to the notion of less is more. Yet, admittedly, can get caught up in wanting, seeing and knowing more. It's a complex chemistry.

I show my body in different ways and for different reasons each time. It changes and the way I feel about it changes. If it doesn't feel good, I don't do it or I take it down. I need to feel safe about it and be confident in my reasons for doing it. I think the difference for me personally is if the images and the posting feel honest, open and real as opposed to performative in the sense of seeking validation.

moll​(other female){owned slav} • Sep 25, 2022

I grew up in this age of social media and I have never posted a nude or provocative photo of myself online. I do need to mention that I was never made to feel ashamed about my body nor my sexuality. It's just not what I want.

I have no issue with others posting sexual photos of themselves. If they are at least 18 and not being coersed in anyway and it makes them feel good about themself or it gives them a feeling of empowerment or pleasure, then enjoy. But be prepared for the onslaught of immaturity that it will attract. Just reality.

My Master does not allow me to share even G-rated photos of myself on BDSM sites for a multitude of reasons. Although, my Master does have a collection of "provocative " photos of me and for the most part they were fun to pose for because my Master enjoys taking and looking at them.