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What came first? The relationship or the BDSM?

SAXMANIAC​(sub female)
3 months ago • Jan 9, 2024
SAXMANIAC​(sub female) • Jan 9, 2024
The relationship came first. We've known each other for decades, we have 3 grown children. I discovered this thing called BDSM and realized that we both had been hiding our true selves from the world. I am naturally quiet and feel more comfortable in a helping capacity; he is more outgoing and a leader. We were in a D/s dynamic without realizing it. Once we introduced BDSM into our relationship, I realized that I could explore the far reaches of my kinkiness with his guidance and he could unleash his inner Dominant. Maybe the underlying kink is what attracted us to each other without us even knowing it. BDSM allowed us to be more open and forced us to trust each other implicitly. It has been an amazing journey of discovery.