Great friendship then couple second?

Great friendship then couple second?

InATimelyFashion • Jul 2, 2024

But it seems this day in age everyone looking but some want a friendship first.
Most are shy to talk about thought I bring it up.


Relationships are always stronger when you are best friends first, and a couple second.
A relationship is really the last thing on my mind. Just be my friend. Be my peace Everything else will fall in place if meant to be.

Grow a friendship with the right connection chemistry aligning with courtship only seeing them over time in the right vibration.

What are your thought's on this do you do it diffren't ?

Miki​(masochist female) • Jul 2, 2024

From what I have seen with friends and family, a friendship-first or alongside "the other stuff" is very important.


It's a foundation upon which other things "fall into place".

There are exceptions to this, as there are to just about everything, but for the most part, if a couple can't be friends, connect on levels other than romance or sex or dynamic... what can they expect that would last?

"Friendship first and / or alongside" is more applicable to those seeking "LTRs" than it is for those who enjoy short term flings-- not that there's anything wrong with those. That's all I ever did and it worked for me and the "co-flingers" I've played with over the years... now decades.

As the saying goes: "Different strokes..."

Solace​(dom male) • Jul 2, 2024

My experience in life has been different. I would have say I disagree on this one.

No. I have found love to be a flame that burns brighter or it burns out. Friends too long and the moment passes, the flame snuffs out, the interest fades, and other more intoxicatingly new interests enter the frame. Those that engage early on, that commit to making it a relationship have a chance to seize on that passion, to make the most of the spark and tinder that love is. To commit early to the idea of making something work, rather filling a bucket of reasons to never try.

I am not saying it doesn't work as best friends first, however I am saying there is no reason that lovers who started as lovers can't bloom into more. Just the same way as best friends could. Dare I say, the only difference is one has company on cold nights sooner.

InATimelyFashion • Jul 2, 2024

Friendship in a way if got to the point kinder spirit soul spark soul aligned together it's rare to have it once. Talk to someone for hours and connect on all levels. It is most unexpected that not just anything comes in but by accident when you're not looking. They protect you when you go out. They give their coat and they will move the glass off the sidewalk for you to walk through those kinds of little things. Make you laugh really get in your mind and read it well, they know you more then some do not everyone really read you well. The movie, anything he wants to ask her out but he takes his time courting her does not push it but earns her heart and respect when they got to close they got shy but he worked his way back you really like someone you will go out of you way for them he got his boom box and lifted up well few feet from her window playing in your eyes by Peter Gabriel.

https://youtu.be/OFRdhRVMTEs?si=Sxd8neTEQCH7FB6R

Solace​(dom male) • Jul 2, 2024

This seems like something important to you. Therefore, I wish to emphasize that it is absolutely fine to pursue this sort of romance. It makes perfect sense why you would seek this, if I was a girl it would make me feel really special. Everyone deserves to feel special.

You asked for thoughts though, so again perspective is what I will offer. It is not a good deal for the men. I lost two best friends this way. Now I get to be part of the conversation every time ladies explain why they can't have guy friends. Its shameful, and humiliating but I take my lumps with the dignity I can. It is also arbitrary. A man can, and men do, move mountains for ladies to earn their love and affection...only to end up with scorn. Yes, rewards can be made to taste sweeter when worked for but only so much whereas there appears to be no limit to how bitter it can end.

Many of us here on the cage hold what is considered more traditional views of relationships. Much of what you describe is what I picture to be how a traditional gentleman treats his lover. Its what we are here for. Its what many of us hope to find. I want to perhaps challenge some of your thoughts though. If a man must earn a ladies affections, he must work hard to earn her heart, what then does he get for it beyond a loving relationship that the lady also gets? What does the lady do to reward this effort on his part? To make everything worth it. What makes the give and take equal? These are rhetorical questions that every person must figure out for themselves, however, imagine what happens when the guy doesn't get the girl and there is nothing to balance the scale.

InATimelyFashion • Jul 2, 2024

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InATimelyFashion • Jul 2, 2024

Lovely words and expression agree with you all in own way it's beautiful.

Garv​(dom male) • Jul 2, 2024

If you can't make it as friends, what is the basis for your relationship?
Unless all you are looking for is a "fling" friendship is the starting place.