Physical attraction

Physical attraction

PandaGirl​(sub female) • Jan 14, 2025

Is physical attraction important to you in your relationship/dynamic? I’m no Jennifer Aniston and I don’t expect you to be Brad Pitt. But let’s also be honest here, physical looks are the first things that draw us to a person, and then the work happens to see if you are compatible and you build something that transcends just looks. I’ve dated average looking men, but in my eyes and because I loved them, they were the most handsome person to me because of who they were as a person.

Steellover​(sub male) • Jan 14, 2025

There has to be SOME kind of attraction, yes.

For me, if I want to worship someone as a Goddess, I want someone who takes care of themselves, and in turn, I would do my part to take care of myself, and maintain myself for Her sake. I want Her to enjoy Her play thing!
I am not saying everyone I date has to look like Shakira or Britney Spears- that's not reasonable or fair, but there does have to be some kind of physical chemistry and attraction.
And let's be clear- physical attraction only goes so far. I've known women who were physically beautiful, but yet who were ugly at the same time, by the way they treated people and the way they interacted with the world.

PandaGirl​(sub female) • Jan 14, 2025

Good point. And yes, physical attraction may be the initial hook, but it’s who you are and what you build together that makes it work and last.

Master W​(dom male)​{Busy} • Jan 14, 2025

Yes lol I'm aware that there are tons of categories and different types of people who can only find someone attractive if there's an emotional connection and all of these things and that's fine, however the idea that you absolutely don't have a single percent of physical attraction to the person that you are sitting across from in some way shape or form just...no lol

Granted, someone can be beautiful on the outside but be a complete and utter disaster under the surface...so is attractiveness a sign of anything besides them being attractive? Not really but it is important.

MisterAshmodai​(dom male) • Jan 14, 2025

I consider physical attraction important, at least insomuch as any potential partner is putting a comparable amount of effort into their physical appearance; working out, maintaining a healthy diet, and taking time to arrange themselves so as to not always look a complete mess. I've never really had a specific type beyond that, appearance-wise.

That being said, when it comes to priorities, you learn over time how little physical attractiveness can effectively take the place of a complimentary personality, which seems to be a pitfall of the especially attractive.

mysterysoul​(masochist female) • Jan 14, 2025

I see a soul first, to read eyes the eyes are soul mirror to their world , how ego is if its a good ego, The aura, I will read them and their life , then the mind then the rest. Know you don't need to be perfect but have peace with the ego and growth that all that really matters.  

No soul no love and if its just after appearance I don't want it gotta be in love with a soul first have to love someone how they come but allow them grow and mold support them for them self be their.  Know one wake up this but taking care of the skin upkeep and do little tools of glamour really the eye brows that bring out the face and the lips and completion.

 Appearance is for your own art as Dita Von Teese says art of creation you don't need to change everything but you can enhance the features but if you do anything be sexy for you anyone wants to be apart of your world they should happy to even be part of it.  I had pretty brows full hair but then I shaved them had to draw them on but sooner later grow them back. Makeup was my only art of creation back then maybe I wore a lot back then I was young discover myself called a slut even tho I was still a virgin just after school had to watch my sister kids I did have time to go around.  I had guy that liked me he did not listen to everyone said just people were just jealous they say sorry later they find out the real truth can't care what other think but let them keep rising higher cause they not willing to do the climb they want easy and easy you can't do. Maybe I wanted to look less pretty in my late 20s so people see me for me. If you don't like the story your living then change it.

 I know little jealous is fine but over jealousy not cool but people need to embrace them self and others let people be you be you and no jealous will happen you time will come but bloom and water yourself.  If someone looking for perfect they will be waiting a lifetime cause perfect does not exist.  Ones looking for perfect they are the ones insecure in side they not been out in the world to go through things or try people without looks  they don't wanna fix the ego or their life but take out on others and ugly comes out. I tried the ken looking ones they pretend to be good but nothing of effect or blue prints and woman does have time for pretend she just walk  away.  If anyone ever not so  polite  just say thank you and smile and walk away smiling. How you respond to things with peace don't drop to their level raise it.  Person attitude is their own reflection not yours that was their option they need to go heal wish them well.

Looks are not everything perfect does not exist as us being are imperfect beauty's .  It's more how one carry's them self take a little pride and cleanness and flatter the body and grooming , Good ego , At peace , growth , Good soul . I don't care for looks I rather take average any day I feel average is what people look like its original and original is very sexy its raw and real.  

 I wanna see the pores in your face the little wrinkle the grey gotta age a bit but you still take care of it still age I want someone that has been through things has grown through the madness gotta be little crazy or its boring. The fake the to much surgery  and media they say you should look like the ads for diets some clothes you really need to look in to yourself  cut of self from the media and really admire yourself and focus on the process of growth and how you carry yourself you need to live your own life get out the gutter of government and politics and media you gotta have peace in your life be gentle with it.

 Put more in time for yourself with water yourself and blooming. The hwp gotta go this not pam am airline people carry more skin then back then more fat in food  I wanna see little meat on someone. Does matter if your skinny curvy whatever its how you treat someone if your ego is bad they not not doing anything just point at everyone only one doing it why everyone like go check your self in to the hospital. If man does like how I come fine you never tried curvy women we are sensual very erotic soft creatures pretty good in bed never leave you bored  your missing out on it but their other men that not afraid they out the comfort zone. But all shapes  have their own sensual and erotica just let it be still sexy.  Go to art museum look at old art nudes their all shapes of people and different looks now get really get addicted to real art cause its real like people are.

 One day you will see someone you never tried you had your preference for years but dame you want to change well if you don't respect people or grow your going to find yourself disjointedness it back fires will leave you being alone.  If you don't scare a person a little they not willing to take for who you are they are not the one . If they willing to deal with the scary stuff and flaw they are not the one.

 I would not tell people your size what size you wear really none of anyone business. Seems to be that shallow ones will only ask hwp say I only like that way tell them to take their measurements fix their ego. I  Get men with muscles that adore my curves the weight more then me they like 220 and 230 in weight they rather have someone with skin I weight 199-200  size 14-16 f I like to dress up carry myself happy how I am does not matter they love to see a women who is happy with them self size does not matter all sizes are beautiful.  Beauty Skinny person or person more skin as long they respect you if they don't well their lose more gain to you when they see with someone well you had your change wish the best.  She does not require for anyone to change but the lines and good attitude show experience in life.

 I use to weight 230 I lost of a lot of but I did for myself my own health being sexy was not to please anyone but to please myself not are job to please anyone just embrace the love you have and free love.  Everyone comes with flaw as flaw is beauty someone may have a problem better to try to help them in good way then put them down want help someone work out with them then being a jerk a trainer would never do that you be kicked out the gym for that. To feel the skin why they fuck me and inflect my soft body with pain but this gotta say comes with feeling good connection soul connection know one can just walk in to your life.


 I think skinny women and bigger set women are sexy I am straight tho admire the art and men also. But if people keep being  jerks  we will  go for the the LBGTQ ones they respect people we can have 2 guys and 2 women cause its not been hard many are attracted we are in different world it does matter really matter who you are the people that get you.  No revenge its just getting better and smarter and getting sexier and better.  Women and men gotta stop being mad at each other start making peace show up be one see how things change. know one should be man if connection not the same it happens so shake hands or be friends. If everyone want's it I don't really only need one. If someone want's you they only have interest in you cause if they lose you someone good will show you that seen you out the crowd. Unexpected will show you the ones show up with out asking but only want you willing to show up later meet not keep you online for ever.

But some are looking for fantasy not looking to looking to peruse but sweet you they not willing to commit or emotionally invested before getting hooked bye.  Right one takes the time will not force to go to app ask for nudes and sex talk the ones that do get mad you don't well they need to perform for them self with the hand its not your job or problem they have a sex problem sex addiction that is on them they need to heal and grow. Anyone coming to you asking for six figures is a red flag they should go work on it if they want it not does matter what people do but do have stable something if your after money it wont buy you love or respect it will only leave you for temporary lust love and alone in the end. They after object to boby everyone want let them keep it rather be a treasure only one not all get a taste of you only one does.

Enhance your art little lip balm/Eyebrow gel on brows and shape them nice pinch your fingers on indent of your eyebrow line of face use little coloring also eyebrow powder and then setting spray.  Keep the glow in the face rice cream and cool water or ponds cream with cold water and massage in circles  and pats the skin down keep moisture in.  Don't like dying your hair use little brow powder with a brush close to your hair and setting spray make highlights if you must. A mascara that for hair also helps for touch ups mostly for the hair line but leave little sliver and gray put on the hairline and the top of were you part it other places even it in. The hair looks great with volume on man or women.  

Little liner never hurts put on the lash line little light color cream color to your eyebrow top this just a tip but this also bring out your face.  Light red pink lip liner and red light pink lipstick use a brush to even it in.  Brush hair 100 to 50 times it will make your hair more skin with body and style hair brush up back to the sides and to the sides buff it a bit to style is nice. Get the bags under eyes two big spoon in the morning leave in the freezer in ice for few seconds and then leave the back of spoons under eyes for 2 full minutes and use cream under eyes in circle and around face use back of the spoon to massage face and neck in circles to even your lines and flaw will look wonderful. Clothes wise wear things that flatter your curves and body that fit good keep to the imagination let them think that they keep coming back don't give free hand outs or they run off may only come for things you are not asking for. We live and learn and grow but be you all that matters know one gets a say in your life only you takes someone to respect you. Embrace the little things that really matter in life with laughter.

bakedbre​(sub female) • Jan 14, 2025

Yes. Physical is just as important as emotional and mental compatibility. I've bristled many a Dom's feathers for asking for a picture head to toe. You mad bro? Automatic red flag. My Dom should have confidence in themselves and respect the fact they need to be pleasing to a subs eyes, not just the other way around. That's also just general dating 101. I didn't come here to blind date Doms.

mysterysoul​(masochist female) • Jan 14, 2025

"I crave so much more than just a physical connection.
I crave words and depth.
I crave who you are and where you came from, your desires and fears.
I yearn to know every inch of you beyond the surface."

I don’t want to be a sweetheart. I want to be the f#cking love of your life.





Photo's by far can be exchanged but even from the torso up does with a smile still keep it on. But they must willing to pour the same in exchange. But blank profile from these suitors should update them self if they really wanna good connection. The full photo when they can show up and show it first with out questioning you.
At first a smile is fine depends on how your life is but conversation should come first. Grow a connection but if they not willing to give up they said they wanna meet you but not show a photo or even voice or cam with keeping on mature manner. Ones prying for photo's and jump quick got to much time on their hands. Prying ones no photo's no intro or some photo they got from art make up story who they are but act nothing like it. It's fine to use art but they expect more photo's they be better to be ready for some crap on a shingle for dinner. Send them a naked cat something really funny see how they respond lol.

Re: Physical attraction

mysterysoul​(masochist female) • Jan 14, 2025

Panda But you have a beautiful art form with aura and a sensual side soul essence says a lot the old soul is beauty. I have read your face but never seen it but 4 clairs you are a beauty I have imaged it.

House Talion​(dom male) • Jan 14, 2025

Physical attraction is a requirement for me for continued chatting. Been through too many women that wanna chat without showing their face and form. Idc of that means I'm shallow, it's me.