How to break the chain ?

How to break the chain ?

Whiplashgirl​(sub female) • Feb 20, 2025

Sorry if this is long winded but I could use your experiences and or thoughts on this.

I’ve been a 24/7 live in slave for 13 years
I’ve only known one Master and he DID NOT share. My experience level is only with him.
Last year he demolished our contract, by betraying our M/s and broke his slave.
And ultimately broke my trust.
TRUST one of the most important a dynamic has.

Ok so he doesn’t want to loose me, and I thought the dynamic deserved me trying. So off we go to M/s Counceling, we tried and even found what led up to this issue ( low and behold it was no longer communicating with each other ) go figure huh
I take that I was just as much responsibility for that as he was. As well as other aspects I own my shit.

But what I found was we’re had become co-dependent, enmeshed into one and calling it off was just near to impossible. We needed each other and wanted the life we had. WE FIT. In every way possible.

However he has lied to me at least 4 times during this year, mostly to save his ass and make it where I didn’t walk I out. But that continued to break the trust. He knows me made a giant mistake and owns it and is sorry. But he continue to lie ( even to save his ass) its still a lie that in my old dynamic we didnt do that. You do not need to do that. Master tells slave xxx, and if slave doesn’t like it, Master talks to slave, moves her to where he wants and does it anyway. Tada no reason to lie.

Ok sorry went on a bit of a rant.

So here I am he considers me his slave and by the fact I’m here tells me all I need to know. I would never ever do anything my Master doesn’t know about. Yet here I am sniffing around on a different site he knows nothing about. I’m so disappointed in me, yet we are over he has broken us. And I gave him a chance for a year. But no trust like none.

Ok so I know a few that have spilt and it took a few years to get over their slave or Master but has anyone held on, even knowing it was done?

Arggggg who am I and what the hell am I doing. lol

Ok new friends… if you can please help?
Respectfully

House Talion​(dom male) • Feb 20, 2025

Your stck in a but by his will cause you have nothingness your own.

Based kn the basic bylaws of M/s a contract is sound with contingencies specifying that if said contract is broken by the slave then the Owner can do as they please withbit, hut if the Owner breaks the contract then they're suposed to adherence the community assessments. As I've seen mist cases show the Owner to pay for the slaves relocation to a location of their choosing regaurdless of reasons, but most owners that have been told this by the community have turned their back on us and done what they want so have been ostracized by the community thus having their role of Owner revoked by the community.
Since most don't care what the community thinks of them this is usually worse within the Gorean society which uses basic verbal contracts for mast individuals of property.

I'll simply tell you the same thing I've told many others. Take what meager belongings you can call yournown and leave. Start walking. If you have no place to go then you're left to literally live kn the street and see whatever you have on you simply to eat.
Then theres the possibility that someone here will send you a plane ticket to relocate to them to which you have no idea if they'll actually treat you any better. That's where some stories of abduction come to pass.

Whiplashgirl​(sub female) • Feb 20, 2025

Thank you for all of your wonderful words. The chain to be broken is not financial.
I need no help in that area.

The chain is the trap of needing to be “ok” to send him away. The need of giving up

It’s a hard thing to do when you “played all in” mind body and soul.

But what I’ve taken from what you stated “honey it’s time to kick him to the curb”
Physically

Thank you again for the help

Respectfully

Whiplashgirl​(sub female) • Feb 20, 2025

Oh and an addendum
You are absolutely correct the community especially the old guard turned their back on him could not believe he did this and embraced me. We have a wonderful community here where I’m at with lots of wonderful people. The first party I went to without him I felt very uncomfortable even though they’re all my friends I didn’t have that person that I stood next to for years.

It’s truly a hard thing to break.

MasterDomDok​(sadist male)​{you?} • Feb 20, 2025

I had a friend once tell me about an experience with a second sex object interfering with her Ds vibe. Her answer was to embrace both, migrate it to a poly situation. The light of love shines brightest when it shows off how unnecessary was the lie to begin with. Once the lie was evaporated, they were free to discover that they all 3 were able to make the dynamic whole again. It didn't happen overnight, but did happen.

Keep shining that light, Love, and good luck.

Then there is the story of "Nine and a Half Weeks," that crashed with a month's crying jagg, master vanished into dust.

Whiplashgirl​(sub female) • Feb 20, 2025

If only that was the case. It was not a “ we are going to play and it got out of hand emotionally “
It was a basically BDSM dirty napkin. Seen a few times but it was the lie he continued to say while going to see her.

Didn’t need to happen that way we had in our contract that he could play with anyone
At any time as long as it was about “us”
This was what he put in the contract. He was absolutely never sharing me, so I think he made it the same for him. No sharing your Master.
We had played with many before but it was upfront open and honest.

But it was done with deceit, lies, betrayal an absolute CAD.
And then continued to lie

Like I had said earlier, I own my shit and I realize that he got his top energy running and yeah yeah yeah
I could’ve forgiven that discretion in our contract I gave it a good try but then it almost became this crazy adventure in lies and it actually made me wonder had most of it been lies?

Sadly it made me wonder was all this real or was this an easy mark to use?
By the way, that’s a horrible way to feel about yourself

And when your actions speak so loud, I cannot hear a word you’re saying

MasterDomDok​(sadist male)​{you?} • Feb 21, 2025

If he is already kicked to the curb, and dust in your rear view mirror, you have to cut your own future, dig out your personal dreams of how it should be, drill in a couple of warnings about back-checking to catch the BS and lean into tomorrow. Nothing wrong with a good cry dear. Many of the Doms on this site alone would be eager to provide you the whip first, then the shoulder to cry on.

I know I would.

MountaintopMaster • Feb 21, 2025

With this in mind, my advice will be along the lines of what has helped me survive the deepest times of similar pain:

Lean on that community. Surround and distract yourself with activity or general communication with friends, or anyone who can support you.

We all know the cliches, "focus on yourself", etc. This is a different process for everyone, but it will involve some form of rediscovering yourself, which can go from a painful exercise to very delightful one, thankfully, pretty quickly. Personally, I try to think of what my higher purpose might be, and explore that with as much of my spare time as I can make.

Whiplashgirl​(sub female) • Feb 21, 2025

Amazing caring advice Sir.
I thank you for that

MasterDomDok​(sadist male)​{you?} • Feb 21, 2025

The parties I've attended I've either had a spectacular bit like your sweet self on display, or been very much in the background. See if you don't spot one in the shadows next time you are at one of these parties. The quiet ones have been watching you, waiting for you to make your move.

Be bold, choose wisely, then move, girl!