NicNacNat(sub gender queer)
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1 month ago •
Feb 24, 2025
Conversation Starters
Hello!
This post has two purposes: 1) The last post was six months ago so I wanted to refresh this forum and maybe start a few conversations! 2) I’m currently struggling with introducing myself/making connections with others (especially potential dommes/partners). What are some of your preferred ways to start conversations? What are some things that make you want to continue chatting with someone? Thanks in advance! Nat |
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Zoneinlingo(neither female)
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1 month ago •
Feb 24, 2025
Start by saying hello. Then let them know you would like to know more about them and that you would love to chat.
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Ms MaryJane
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1 month ago •
Feb 24, 2025
Hey I am not a lesbian. I am a Domme though!! I would say read their profile. say hello, I am (insert name here). I read your profile and A,B,C interested me. I was wondering if you would be interested in chatting and getting to know me, as I would be interested in chatting with you more. Thanks so much. I look forward to hearing back from you.
this is how I would like to be approached but rarely happens. |
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Steellover(sub male)
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1 month ago •
Feb 25, 2025
My thoughts: If you are interested in connecting with a fellow Cage member, then build up your own presence on the site, and then follow them (though not obsessively of course.) If they have a blog, read it, and comment on something that piqured your interest. If they made a forum post that struck a chord with you, then that would also be a good conversation starter. And then, if you've contributed posts and blogs of your own, they might see something of yours that they can connect with.
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Sweet Minx(sub female)
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1 month ago •
Feb 25, 2025
There's no right or wrong. While some people may like a plain "hello, I'm interested in getting to know you", that may be the sentence that causes you to get blocked by someone else.
Just be sincere, and be you. |
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NicNacNat(sub gender queer)
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1 month ago •
Feb 25, 2025
Ms MaryJane wrote: this is how I would like to be approached but rarely happens. Thank you so much for the advice! I always get in my own head about things, so It’s always more reassuring to hear/read from someone with experience. (P.S sorry to hear that it rarely happens that way for you. I can empathize) |
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NicNacNat(sub gender queer)
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1 month ago •
Feb 25, 2025
Steellover wrote: My thoughts: If you are interested in connecting with a fellow Cage member, then build up your own presence on the site, and then follow them (though not obsessively of course.) If they have a blog, read it, and comment on something that piqured your interest. If they made a forum post that struck a chord with you, then that would also be a good conversation starter. And then, if you've contributed posts and blogs of your own, they might see something of yours that they can connect with.
That’s some good and specific advice that I needed to hear. I’ve done my fair share of lurking but not so much with making myself visible/accessible on the site. I really appreciate you taking the time to comment. |
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SoftSoul(masochist female)
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1 month ago •
Feb 26, 2025
It always started out as getting to know someone in a grown manner being a bit creative with more to say this just getting to know someone building a conversation cause does mean may lead in to soothing but could take it easy.
Never go into like I am a sub/dom keep the dynamic talk for later when it gets more deep just keep it as if you are getting to know a friend. Short words never help, and sex talk does not either. So try to read people, the blog like the color they were the room the atmosphere keeping to discover more but don't push anything but keep a mystery. Connections are rare you will go through a few people til you find someone but it has to be taken slow over time best things come unexpected. Just as connections cannot be forced, not all connections are the same, so things will happen and you will need to keep going. It takes two people to feel the same, one person can not force if not the same you just have to love yourself. When its gets more deep both willing to be sincere to go real and meet a few times takes a year see if the connection is the same as real. |
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LongerJohnny(dom male){B&C}
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1 month ago •
Mar 1, 2025
How about:
"I have an awesome, tiny weiner! Wanna touch it?" Guaranteed to never work every time. |
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Talu(sub female){MikaAngelO}
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1 month ago •
Mar 2, 2025
I really relate to this, I’ve been trying to figure out how to step forward myself, and starting conversations feels like its own challenge.
I think the best conversations start with curiosity, real, thoughtful curiosity. Not just about labels or roles, but about why we’re here, what draws us in. So maybe the best way to start is just that, being curious, respectful, being honest about where we are, and seeing who’s willing to meet us there. |
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