Need help, need DD advice

Need help, need DD advice

MrSpiffyPants​(dom male) • Mar 2, 2025

I'm basically a new daddy/dom. My wife has been in the lifestyle for a long time. I want to give her what she needs, the support and to help her get in her little space. I'm very good at the daddy aspect, but the dom part in having trouble with. I've tried doing more in the dom part but failing miserably. So to any male or female doms , I would greatly appreciate any information or insight.

House Talion​(dom male) • Mar 2, 2025

Dependsbon what she wants and needs which is specific to her and not much can be said that a basic dom wouldn't know

SoftSoul​(masochist female) • Mar 3, 2025

The relationship between a Daddy Dom and his babygirl is very intimate and close, with a level of trust that can only be gained through a deep knowledge of one another both physically and emotionally. Because of this bond the emotional safety, as well as the physical, are of the most importance to the Daddy Dom. Adult can be filled with predators and people, both male and female, that do not comprehend basic courtesy and the meaning of the word no. This can create an environment that doesn’t allow a babygirl to feel safe or welcome.

The question then arises, what makes a babygirl’s safety any different than any submissive or anyone in general? The answer to that lies with the babygirl herself. Most, but not all, women that identify as a babygirl do so because they find a release in being free of stress and the worries that are associated with the struggles of everyday life. This release is achieved by allowing themselves to surrender control to their Daddy and creating a mental space in which they feel comfortable and almost childlike. This does not mean they regress into a child, by no means is that true. It simply means they find a headspace in which they are free of those concerns. Sometimes called “little space,” this state of mind often leaves babygirls feeling vulnerable when someone they are unfamiliar with speaks to, or contacts them

When you combine “little space” with a predator, the results can be disastrous and may, in some instances, leave a babygirl mentally scarred. Because of this potential danger, it’s very important to a Daddy Dom to ensure his girl’s safety. A Daddy Dom That it can be impossible to be everywhere that the girl goes, so investigated several babygirl friendly places in the outside world is safe.

A babygirl needs more. She needs to feel safe and know that someone has taken actions to protect her in these instances.

“Many things, one of which is that of the community’s support, understanding and positive outlook on things. Have be able to build an amazing support system. Treat others with respect, or you will not last long here,”

Safety and well being of the baby girls were of tantamount importance there. Every issue brought up to her, or any other member was taken seriously . If someone overstepped their boundaries, immediate action was taken, and the consequences all depended on the severity of the infraction.


There are baby girl but also there is baby boy's as well.

Babygirl needs to feel safe and protected and calm to allow anyone in.
Babygirl needs tender loving care and a good Daddy strong hand to lead her and help her grow and bloom. But it takes a grown-up daddy to understand.
No matter the person everyone aches someone to lean on.


Baby girl aches for Daddy's figure-like of Head of the hold.
Take the right person to understand and have patience
They have a Guarded heart but it comes naturally and just needs to be molded some things come with but everyone comes with things it's just they have to break out To get out of their shell they need guidance from their partner but they have to be willing but might tame time baby steps.
Someone to kiss the bobo, wipe the tears, to hold her , to rock her, to read her stories, and help go to sleep, make her healthy meals. She carries her stuffies or a blankie she may wear cute things. But some baby girls are goth or pink or whatever they feel. She needs knee pads to crawl to her daddy, lots of colored books , sippy cups , cartoons, pillow to sit on and lay on. They crave the daddy they will need daddy's baba at time to suck on to keep them calm.

And so they crave attention and love but are fine to be sassy sometimes but takes time for them to blossom more to more growth side. They just need support to balance. It can also help the partner.

But let the baby girl be them self molded with their partner's leadership hand. But molded together the yin and the yang. More like clay with a chisel molding in layers.

They need discipline and structure out of love but also with rewards to grow. They need a stable home to go to many baby-like ones are in adoption mode.
They may need things taken away or spanked, Learn to take on responsibility with structure with your help.

Time to be grown and time to be sassy.

Both sides are building but it will take some growing of the relationship and molding together.



George Michael - Father Figure (Official Video - featured in 'Babygirl')



Daddy DOM/Little Girl Relationship
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Colored books are coloring books and education books , tablet , toys to keep them busy.
Babygirls need to be leashed at times so they don't wander. They need binkie gags when it is time for discipline out of love. But a binkie to fall a sleep as well.

Lots of maintenance spanking, to pick out the paddle for daddy to paddle their bottom red. Learn to count every spanking. Your butt will be red so every time you sit down you will know your daddy's property.
Babygirl bound kit.
Daddy does need to give aftercare and bathe their baby girl and play doctor and inspect her. Babygirl writes her goals and dreams so Daddy can help her achieve her goals and dreams. Because a good Daddy would support baby girl in every way as she will support in return with love.


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MrSpiffyPants​(dom male) • Mar 3, 2025

Thank you so much for all the useful info. It really means alot. She was in a bad headspace and it was triggered from one of her audio books. It took awhile for us to talk it out. I have alot to stop learn. But with what you've given me here it's a good start.

House Talion​(dom male) • Mar 3, 2025

The more info you're able to give the more others can help with any given situation. I don't need to know why she was listening to audio books, butnits apparent she got misinformed which led to the triggering. Her best bet would be to be coerced to chat with irl ppl that have had experience with the lifestyle. On a more personal note anything done while increasing the connection between the two of you while she's taught by others is very helpful. Could always have her sitting on your lap while you pet her.

lilWolfie​(sub female) • Mar 5, 2025

The more detailed questions you ask, the better your help would be, Mister Talion.

I read dark romance books. In many of these books there can be triggering material. Most of the time it dosent phase me. This book, just happened to strike a raw nerve I'd like to ignore.

I pulled away. I shut down. He was hurt that I pulled away and gave me space. Which only made it worse. But eventually i came around. Again.. we're learning.

I know I need a firmer hand. And he's trying to learn how to give me that firmer hand.

He's a natural Daddy but very much in his own head when it's time to be the Dom.

I'm a little/sub with masochist tendencies. I'm bratty and believe if I'm going to get punished I'll make the fun count. I do not require any training. Nore will I be under anyone else to "learn".

He needs a mentor to help him as a Dom. Someone to bounce ideas off, hear real life experiences and explain things so he can better understand. He's more in his head and worried he'll hurt me. I have a back injury that limits my movement and at times effects how I can be bound or positioned.

We've looked around us. We don't have that kind of community in our small town. So we reached out here. Hopefully to find advice and friends.

RowanPoe​(other male) • Mar 7, 2025

Think about being a Service Top rather than a Dom. If you don't have the drive to 'dominate' someone, treat it more like a roleplay scenarios. The strict Daddy with rules, rewards, and punishments. Look into protocol play and use some structure for sessions. Have expectations on dress, appearance, titles, positions, and when it's time to test your Middle on physical tasks. You don't have to be a fictious Alpha personality. Be yourself, with rules, and let yourself enjoy learning about one another.