Discover your values in a CGL DDLG dynamic

Discover your values in a CGL DDLG dynamic

Parttimeprincess​(sub female) • Mar 12, 2025

Hi! I like making bdsm infographics and quizes and things. This is a quiz designed for those that are Little or have a little to help them figure out the things they value most in their dynamic. It's not meant as an end all be all word on relationships but to help you figure out something about yourself. I hope you like it.

Discover Your Core Values in a CGL Dynamic
Instructions: Answer each question as honestly as possible. At the end, reflect on which themes appear most often in your answers. This will help you understand your core values in a CGL relationship.

1. What makes you feel safest in a dynamic?
A) Having clear rules and a structured daily routine
B) Knowing my partner is emotionally available for me
C) Having gentle but firm guidance and correction
D) Being able to play and express myself freely
E) Feeling completely taken care of and protected

2. How do you prefer to express love and affection?
A) Acts of service – doing things for my partner
B) Emotional reassurance – verbal encouragement and affirmations
C) Obedience – following rules and being “good” for them
D) Playfulness – engaging in fun, silly, or little activities together
E) Physical closeness – cuddles, being doted on, or pampered

3. What do you need most from your Caregiver or Little?
A) Structure and routines to help me thrive
B) Deep emotional connection and understanding
C) Clear guidance and discipline to help me grow
D) Playfulness and fun to make life more enjoyable
E) A strong, protective presence I can fully depend on

4. What role do rules play in your ideal dynamic?
A) I need them to feel secure and stable
B) They aren’t as important as emotional connection
C) I appreciate them as long as they help me grow
D) I prefer flexibility over strict rules
E) I want them, but I also love to push limits a little

5. How do you like to be comforted when you're upset?
A) Being reminded of my routine or daily structure
B) Receiving kind words, reassurance, and deep conversations
C) Being gently corrected or redirected toward something productive
D) Distracting myself with fun, play, or little activities
E) Being held, cuddled, or protected from the problem

6. Which statement describes you best?
A) I love organization, structure, and having set expectations
B) I’m emotionally sensitive and need a strong bond with my partner
C) I appreciate discipline and correction when needed
D) I value self-expression and a playful, carefree side
E) I want to be fully protected and cared for in my dynamic

7. When you think of an ideal CGL relationship, what excites you the most?
A) Daily routines and structured care
B) Deep emotional intimacy and trust
C) Growth and learning through discipline and rules
D) Playful moments, games, and creative expression
E) Feeling completely cherished, pampered, and cared for

8. How do you feel about punishments in your dynamic?
A) They should be structured and consistent
B) I’d rather talk about mistakes than be punished
C) They help me stay accountable and improve
D) I prefer playful consequences over serious ones
E) I don’t like punishments at all; I just want to feel safe

9. What’s your ideal way to spend a day in little space or as a Caregiver?
A) Following a comforting routine with planned activities
B) Spending time bonding and being emotionally close
C) Practicing discipline, guidance, and structured care
D) Playing, crafting, or doing something fun and silly
E) Being nurtured, held, and completely looked after

10. How do you handle independence in a relationship?
A) I like some freedom but thrive best with guidance
B) I need emotional support more than rules or restrictions
C) I want my partner to guide me but not control me
D) I like a mix—playfulness and responsibility together
E) I prefer to be fully dependent on my Caregiver for everything

11. What makes you feel most “in role” in a CGL dynamic?
A) When my daily routine is maintained by my partner
B) When I receive loving attention and validation
C) When I am given rules and expectations to follow
D) When I am free to be playful, silly, and creative
E) When I am being completely taken care of, without worry

12. What is your biggest fear in a dynamic?
A) Chaos, unpredictability, or lack of structure
B) Emotional disconnection from my partner
C) Feeling like I am failing in my role
D) Losing my ability to express myself freely
E) Being abandoned or left without care

13. What’s your ideal bedtime routine with your Caregiver or Little?
A) A set bedtime with a structured nightly routine
B) Talking about our feelings and winding down together
C) Reviewing the day and learning from any mistakes
D) Playing, cuddling, or having fun until we fall asleep
E) Being tucked in, comforted, and feeling completely safe

14. What do you seek most in aftercare?
A) Reassurance that everything is okay and balanced
B) Emotional validation and connection
C) Understanding how to improve for next time
D) Playful cuddles, fun, and lightheartedness
E) Feeling pampered, protected, and unconditionally loved

15. What would make your CGL relationship feel perfect?
A) A consistent, stable daily structure
B) Deep emotional support and love
C) A balance of discipline and affection
D) Lots of laughter, fun, and playfulness
E) Feeling fully nurtured and taken care of

Results & Reflection:
After answering these questions, take a look at your most common responses:

If you answered mostly A’s, your core value is Structure & Routine – You thrive with rules, schedules, and stability.
If you answered mostly B’s, your core value is Nurturing & Emotional Support – You seek deep connection, love, and reassurance.
If you answered mostly C’s, your core value is Discipline & Guidance – You appreciate rules, growth, and structured correction.
If you answered mostly D’s, your core value is Playfulness & Self-Expression – You love fun, creativity, and playful freedom.
If you answered mostly E’s, your core value is Trust & Dependence – You feel happiest when fully cared for and cherished.

What is your Core value? Do you agree with this? Do you think you need to work on adding in other elements to your Dynamic or do you think leaning into one is better? How do you plan on communicating these needs?

Parttimeprincess​(sub female) • Mar 13, 2025

Yesterday I shared the quiz. Today I am sharing a series of questions designed to help Littles figure out more about how these values impact your Dynamic, expectations, communication and more. But first here is an expanded list of core traits with examples, and definitions to help you better understand these values. Read through the list and then answer the questions. Take your time and not every question demands an answer, this is just a guide to help you learn about yourself.
Structure & Routine
✅ Feels safe with predictability – Thrives with consistent schedules and rituals.
✅ Enjoys setting goals – Likes guidance in reaching personal or developmental milestones.
✅ Responds well to rules – Finds comfort in knowing what’s expected.
✅ Likes daily check-ins – Appreciates regular communication and structure.
✅ Enjoys responsibility within limits – Likes having small tasks or routines to follow.
Nurturing & Emotional Support
✅ Needs reassurance – Seeks frequent encouragement and affirmations.
✅ Emotionally expressive – Values open, honest communication with their Caregiver.
✅ Loves gentle correction – Prefers understanding guidance over harsh discipline.
✅ Sensitive to moods – Can be deeply affected by their Caregiver’s emotions.
✅ Thrives on affection – Feels secure with hugs, praise, and warmth.
Discipline & Guidance
✅ Likes accountability – Wants to be held to a standard with gentle correction.
✅ Seeks self-improvement – Enjoys learning and growing with guidance.
✅ Finds security in boundaries – Feels safer when rules and limits are enforced.
✅ Wants to please their Caregiver – Feels fulfilled when they make their partner proud.
✅ Enjoys structured consequences – Prefers clear expectations for rewards or discipline.
Playfulness & Self-Expression
✅ Loves little activities – Enjoys coloring, stuffies, crafts, and other little pastimes.
✅ Has a vivid imagination – Enjoys roleplay, make-believe, and creative fun.
✅ Expresses emotions openly – Laughs, cries, and shares feelings freely.
✅ Seeks a playful partner – Needs a Caregiver who engages in fun and silliness.
✅ Finds joy in small things – Gets excited over surprises, cute items, or fun experiences.
Trust & Dependence
✅ Relies on their Caregiver for comfort – Finds safety in their presence.
✅ Values honesty – Needs open communication to feel secure.
✅ Wants to be taken care of – Enjoys being doted on, nurtured, and protected.
✅ Seeks consistency – Needs reassurance that their Caregiver will always be there.
✅ Loyal and deeply attached – Forms strong emotional bonds with their Caregiver.
Core Values Reflection Questions for Littles
1️⃣ Which core value feels most important to you in your dynamic?
How does this value make you feel safe, happy, or fulfilled in your relationship?
Can you think of an example where this value played a big role in your dynamic?
2️⃣ How do you like your Caregiver to show support for your needs?
Do you need consistent structure (daily check-ins, schedules)?
Do you crave emotional support (praise, affection, reassurance)?
What’s one thing your Caregiver does (or could do) that makes you feel most loved?
3️⃣ What are your expectations when it comes to rules, discipline, or structure?
Do you thrive on clear rules and routines, or do you prefer more flexibility?
How do you feel about consequences or rewards?
What works best for you?
How do you communicate when a rule or boundary doesn’t feel right?
4️⃣ How does playfulness and self-expression show up in your dynamic?
What activities make you feel the most little?
How do you want your Caregiver to engage in play with you?
Are there any parts of your personality (like shyness, creativity, or energy levels) that impact how you express your little side?
5️⃣ What does trust and dependence mean to you in your relationship?
What helps you feel safe and secure with your Caregiver?
How do you handle moments when you feel disconnected, uncertain, or insecure?
What’s one way you and your Caregiver can build even more trust together?

Parttimeprincess​(sub female) • Mar 14, 2025

Here is an expanded list of core values and Questions for Dominates or Bigs. I hope you enjoy it. Remember this is just a guide. You don't have to fit perfectly. This is just to help you figure out more about you and your dynamic.
### **Structure & Routine**
✅ **Enjoys routines** – Finds comfort in daily rituals and schedules.
✅ **Organized** – Keeps things structured and planned out.
✅ **Reliable** – Consistently follows through on expectations.
✅ **Encourages responsibility** – Helps their little stay accountable for tasks.
✅ **Sets clear expectations** – Communicates rules and structure effectively.

### **Nurturing & Emotional Support**
✅ **Good listener** – Takes the time to understand their little’s feelings.
✅ **Empathetic** – Cares deeply about their little’s emotional well-being.
✅ **Encouraging** – Lifts their little up with words of affirmation.
✅ **Patient** – Provides gentle guidance even during tough moments.
✅ **Comforting presence** – Makes their little feel safe and cherished.

### **Discipline & Guidance**
✅ **Firm but fair** – Sets rules and enforces them with consistency.
✅ **Teaches life skills** – Helps their little grow and improve.
✅ **Holds their little accountable** – Encourages them to meet goals.
✅ **Leads by example** – Shows their little how to act with maturity and kindness.
✅ **Uses constructive correction** – Focuses on learning rather than punishment.

### **Playfulness & Fun**
✅ **Enjoys little activities** – Engages in playtime and fun interactions.
✅ **Creative** – Loves making up games, stories, or activities.
✅ **Lighthearted** – Keeps things positive and enjoyable.
✅ **Affectionate** – Expresses love through cuddles, jokes, and silly moments.
✅ **Encourages joy** – Finds ways to make their little laugh and feel carefree.

### **Authority & Leadership**
✅ **Takes charge with confidence** – Leads the dynamic with assurance.
✅ **Decisive** – Makes informed choices for their little’s well-being.
✅ **Protective** – Prioritizes their little’s safety and security.
✅ **Respected but approachable** – Holds authority while maintaining warmth.
✅ **Values trust** – Builds a relationship based on mutual confidence and reliability.

**Core Values Reflection for Dominants**
**1. How Does Structure & Routine Shape Your Caregiving Style?**
- Do you believe in setting a structured schedule for your little? If so, how detailed should it be?
- What are the key rules or expectations you feel are essential in your dynamic?
- How do you help your little stay accountable while ensuring they don’t feel overwhelmed?
- In what ways do you provide consistency and stability in your little’s life?

#### **2. How Do You Express Nurturing & Emotional Support?**
- How do you comfort your little when they are sad, stressed, or anxious?
- What role does encouragement and affirmations play in your dynamic?
- How do you balance being emotionally available while maintaining your own boundaries?
- What do you do to ensure your little always feels cherished and supported?

#### **3. What Does Discipline & Guidance Look Like in Your Dynamic?**
- How do you set and enforce boundaries with your little?
- What is your approach to discipline? Do you prefer positive reinforcement, structured consequences, or a mix of both?
- What life skills or personal growth areas do you help your little with?
- How do you communicate rules and expectations in a way that is both firm and fair?

#### **4. How Do You Incorporate Playfulness & Fun into Your Dynamic?**
- What are your favorite little activities to do with your partner?
- How do you create an environment where your little feels safe to be playful?
- Do you use humor, silliness, or creativity to build connection?
- What ways do you encourage joy and excitement in your little’s life?

#### **5. What Kind of Leader Are You in Your Dynamic?**
- How do you ensure your little respects your authority while still feeling comfortable and heard?
- What does being a protective and responsible Dominant mean to you?
- How do you make decisions that balance both your needs and your little’s needs?
- How do you build a strong foundation of trust and reliability in your relationship?

House Talion​(dom male) • Mar 17, 2025

My value dependsnkn what my owned sub/little says, but since she just wants to please me I'd say I'm damn awesome. Plus I don't often hear of Littles wanting to be owned so there's also that

Parttimeprincess​(sub female) • Mar 17, 2025

I'm an owned little. I think it just depends on what kinda structure and support try need. Everyone has a slightly different dynamic and should. It should fit your needs, not someone else's. I just made this as a reference or check. I know some littles, especially new ones. Struggle with finding there feet in the bdsm world.

intenseoldman​(dom male) • Mar 17, 2025

I appreciate your work here. I have been in a couple of DD/lg type dynamics. I find from this that I'm all about nurturing and emotional support. It's the emotional connection I'm a Daddy for. I am more into babygirls, someone who's not helpless, but loves having a Daddy to encourage, praise and support her. I'm not into harsh negative reinforcement as far as discipline goes. Nevertheless, I'm a sadist so balancing the nurturing caring daddy with the cruel taskmaster is a challenge.

This is really good work. Those who take the time to understand it will gain some insight. Again, appreciate your effort.

Parttimeprincess​(sub female) • Mar 18, 2025

I appreciate that you took the time in investigate my little work here. I know it's a lot. But I get on a ramble sometimes. I find most littles I know really thrive with someone that is nurturing and supportive while still a challenge. I hope you find or have found that person for yourself 💞