Hurts?

Hurts?

Derk​(switch male) • Oct 12, 2025

I joined this website not so long ago, and just started reaching out to a couple people. The first person to reach out to me (I won’t say their name) was so nice! I absolutely enjoyed everything about them. Their eyes, personality, and even the bit of story I’d received about them.

I felt they were so unique, and wonderful. This conversation was strictly friend conversation the entire time.. Music, life, hobbies, work. It was impressive how we had so much in common.

We ended off on a great conversation, and I had this little sparkle waiting for the next conversation every time! That little void filled up with a bit of happiness. A day passes, and another.. no big deal. After a week of not receiving anything from them I was going to check up because i knew they were having health issues.

They would even apologize if they didn’t respond in a timely manner (which I definitely don’t mind). All the language was so warm and felt like absolute no way they would just throw it away.

Sadly I was blocked. Not sure why, I mean - honestly the conversation seemed so full and happy on both sides. Is there something I could have done to cause this without knowing? I only can think that, maybe I didn’t provide sexual content?? Even then just seems that’s not it.. They never pried or seemed exhausted of regular conversation, and honestly I might have if they wanted or asked.

Anyways, if someone blocks you just swallow it and respect their decisions and boundaries. I felt this particular person was very special, and I still feel that way!

Sorry for the public crying:) I’m sure some of you enjoy that stuff though! 😉

DerSiebteHimmel​(sub female) • Oct 12, 2025

Don’t look for the reason in yourself. Maybe there really are some health problems, and the person just doesn’t have the energy to stay in touch.
Another thing is, they could’ve explained it instead of just disappearing.
So this person isn’t as great as you thought x
And don’t worry that you might’ve been not enough for them. People either accept you with all your pluses and minuses, or screw them x

Miki • Oct 12, 2025

That this was just a friendly conversation and then the person just stops talking and then blocks you. That says more about them than it does about you.

The right thing to do is for the other to send a note stating, "I'm moving in a different direction, but thanks for the conversation." Hard to write, even harder to read but it shows more guts than those who "ghost".

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This goes for platonic as well as romantic messaging:

Ghosters are spineless cowards and one will do better without them, although it may not seem so at first. You'll get through it. You'll discover a new friendship eventually and the tougher part is the infamous "Once Bitten" hesitancy. This shit will always be in the back of your mind, but don't let it stop you from making new connections.

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As for the "Maybe they're sick and didn't have the energy or time to write-" -- Maybe.... Except they found the time and energy to pull up your profile and click the "Block" button. 'Nuff said there.

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Now, before I fly this coop for the day.... FYI... I have seen this before, more than a few times since I joined this place. You aren't alone. A couple dudes even asked me to run interference for them asking me to ask the ghosting party what they did wrong, let them explain, that they're OK guys... None of it did any good.

Farts gonna stink, haters gonna hate, and ghosters gonna ghost.

From where I sit and what you wrote, this isn't on you.

Thank you!

Derk​(switch male) • Oct 14, 2025

Thank you for your kind words! You were right. Turns out this person was impersonating someone else for their likeness to benefit their own predatory behavior.

Miki • Oct 14, 2025

@ Derk

The individual who was writing probably figured out you wouldn't fit into whatever predation they had in mind and stopped writing and blocked you. Again, that's on them, not you. .

I hate to recommend anyone be paranoid, but reasonable dose of skepticism should be understandable to those without agendas...

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Thin profiles might raise flags for some, but in general it's friendly convo then ghosting like this character pulled... "Engage in friendly convo then evaporate into thin air if the target doesn't seem to fit the mold".

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"Thin" profiles in and of themselves are not red flags in many cases such as mine, where I am deliberately thin because I'm Not Looking; and I never ask anyone for anything.

On a side note, I am just fine with the two or three dudes on here I write to back and forth once in a while because they're "Not Looking" as well, so our conversations are about anything and everything, with no concerns about gooey romantic shit bubbling up out of the general ooze.

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Best of luck, you'll do fine being "you".

DerSiebteHimmel​(sub female) • Oct 15, 2025

@Derk
I think I’m starting to understand. Did this person mention having health problems? So, most likely, they were just trying to get money from you, right? Be careful