In a polyamorous relationship
Within me there’s a balance of straight-forward pragmatism and delicate Femininity; Handle with care. Delicate as in a bomb, not a flower. I like to call myself a sweet sadist. I can be a kind person but also very demanding and even domineering and selfish; in the best ways possible of course. I'm currently 44 years old. I have a life outside of this world and demand my privacy.
I’ve been apart of the BDSM community for over 20 years. It’s not something I’ve chosen to dip my toe into, it’s what triggers both my sexuality and ability to have close relationships. It’s how I’m wired. There have been no traumatic events that have altered my outlook. It’s just who I am. I find a true D/s relationship to be one of the most powerful and freeing experiences a person can have. I don’t find D/s dirty or dark, just different. My relationships are based on truth and communication. I can’t say that for many of my vanilla friends and their partners. Please understand that if we do get to know each other and you are a submissive, in the beginning, I will know much more about you than you will me. If you're not comfortable with that, I understand. Please move on. From where I stand D/s relationships are not a 50/50 give and take. It's more like 15/85. I'm not interested in "outing" anyone or doing them harm, it's just how I work.
PLEASE NOTE, I WILL NOT RESPOND TO E-MAILS THAT HAVE NO CONTENT. Why e-mails someone "hi"? Tell me about yourself and your D/s history. Not just what I can read in your profile. Tell me why you reached out to me. What made you take the time? Why should I give you even a moments notice?
Address me as Lady H, I am not your Mistress! That title is reserved for the men that do the work and show their devotion.
Nothing illegal. Nothing to do with children, pets, scat, hypnotizing, Mommy Domme. No drugs. I’m not interested in a Sissy, sorry boys. No one under the age of 25 or over 55. Sorry folks, can’t do it! If you’re in a relationship and your partner doesn’t know you’re into D/s or on this site, don’t bother contacting me.
Due to Covid, it seems everything outside my front door is new. I’m interested in chatting with like minded individuals. See where it goes. Warning…I know what I want and I will hunt him down and show no mercy. You have been warned…. Carry on.
"Everything you need to know about negotiation is there, in the Tango Milonga. At the outside they are opponents, each has something the other wants. They size one another up, assessing risk, setting boundaries, challenging each other to breach them. A sensuous battle, violence, and sex, balanced on the blade of a knife. Nothing given when it’s not earned, nothing taken when it’s not given. This is the pure essence of negotiation. Not a poker game, but a Milonga. A tango. Seduction.” Raymond Reddington