This lifestyle chose me a long time ago and I dabbled for the first few years. I did some reading and realized I had always had some aspects in every relationship I had. I saw there was a name to the things I liked and I wasn't alone in my likes. It was then that I decided to embrace it and love it.
I like aspects of both being in control and relinquishing all control to someone. However, I won't cross the line with the one who holds my submission. I need my Dominant to be permanently Dominant, not a switching. It blurs lines. (Except for a bit of smartassness once in awhile,lol)
I haven't done these simultaneously, yet. But it is an interest to explore.
I speak my mind, tell you what I think, sometimes very bluntly, you will get the answer you are looking for but if I have something I want to say about it, I'll probably say it too.
If you have my submission :
I will not repress myself for you. I will respect and obey you.
For me to give you my submission and obedience, I need to respect you. Respect is given by showing me you are who you say you are, you respect me as a person, that you hold true to your word, you are caring yet firm, and true to your own values and morals.
I am looking for a LTR, starting out online moving to IRL.
I have found that in an online dynamic, the physical contact, the feeling of hands doing the binding and delivering hits/spanks is lacking. It just isn't the same when you're providing those for yourself, like an itch that you can just barely reach, scratch it a little, give yourself a bit of relief just to have it come back in seconds, with an even stronger itch. Starting online is ok, but it can't stay that way forever.
I am finding that in the last while, I have really started to miss IRL.
Things about myself you need to know:
I am monogamous, just not interested in a polyamorous lifestyle.
I have found that when I am bored and not being fully engaged, is when I can smartoff, try to get a response or it bring out the switch.
I don't tolerate dishonesty, breaking hard limits, disrespect, being ignored, or falsely presenting yourself.
My libido is high. I get bored if this is ignored. The sexual side is just as important as the day to day side. Both need to be there.
More will be discussed as we get to know each other.
You should know what you want also.
You should be strictly monogamous, no exceptions.
Your libido needs to match mine, or you should at least have an interest in sexual play too.
You should know that lifestyle means 24/7, not just sexual.
You should not be looking for a little or a pet. DDlg snd pet play just aren't for me.
You should follow through on what you say, with everything. From the most intimate things, to everyday things to punishments.
You should have a strong personality. You should be able to banter back and forth, yet be firm when needed. Be gentle yet commanding at appropriate times.
I have posted my results from bdsmtest below. They are fairly accurate.
I have had the opportunity over the last year to explore the masochistic side, and it is most definitely correct. Pain in the correct amounts, gives the best orgams and is almost necessary for orgasms at all.
I do enjoy light bondage and have a little experience with it, but not to the extent of a rope bunny at all.
I have found chemical play is very fun. We can talk about it more later.
Permanent marks, blood, scat, urine, illegal acts, no impregnating, breath and water play, gun play, body modification, non discreet public
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Masochist
94% Submissive
92% Voyeur
83% Experimentalist
79% Brat
58% Exhibitionist
57% Primal (Prey)
54% Rope Bunny
49% Primal (Hunter)
43% Sadist
30% Vanilla
25% Dominant
18% Rigger
12% Brat Tamer
9% Owner
8% Daddy/Mommy
5% Pet
2% Master/Mistress
1% Slave
0% Degrader
0% Non-monogamist
0% Boy/Girl
0% Degradee
0% Ageplayer