dom gender queer

Toledo, Ohio, United States
Relationship status
In a polyamourous relationship
About me
Identity, Orientation, Dynamics, Roles, Personality

Gender Identity: Queer/GNC
Gender Expression/Presentation: Feminine/Femme
Sex Assigned At Birth: Female
Pronoun Preferences: She/Her/Herself

Sexual Orientation/Physical Attraction: Mono-ish Demi- Pan-
Romantic Orientation/Emotional Attraction: Poly- Demi- Pan-
Kinsey Scale: 3X
Purple-Red Scale: D3

Relationship Dynamics (Roles): Authority Based (Master), Power Exchange (Dominant), Kinky Play (Top/Sadist)
Myers-Briggs Type Indicator: ISTJ (Introversion Sensing Thinking Judging)
Love Language: Acts of Service (primary), Receiving Gifts and Quality Time (secondary)


Many people are puzzled by the dynamic between my girl (Kiltgrrl) and I, mainly because we don't fit cleanly within typical labels. The closest approximation to our dynamic would be that of a daimyo and bushi/samurai, or lord/retainer, and therefore consider our dynamic to be M/s or Authority-Based. She is very much my loyal warrior that follows a path of honor. She keeps watch, observes, serves, and attends as I am the lord she has chosen to offer her allegiance to. We are both Dominant, although she is one that is on a leash (figuratively speaking)...she has chosen to serve me. Within the Household, she is alpha among those who serve and a command from her should be heard as if I spoke it myself. She provides assistance and performs certain functions that I may not be able to or she is better at, which are required and desired for me to lead a whole, happy, and healthy life. She feeds me (in ways more than simply edibles), makes me laugh (ask about Trae-Puppet), is much like a handler or bodyguard at events, and is my closest companion. Kiltgrrl is my Service Bear Warrior Consort. She has sworn her mind, her heart, and her strength to me. She is my William Riker, my Joscelin Verreuil, my bushi/samurai, and my Thomas Branson rolled up in one.

I am also fortunate to have several wonderful service-oriented individuals that serve me from time to time. I love the wonderful energy they bring into my life and the peace I feel from their service.
BDSM and me
Leather and Kink

I have been involved with the leather and kink communities for 20+ years. I consider myself an endorphin enthusiast and a silly sadist who enjoys a good laugh when playing. My sadism is more about my entertainment through your pain; it has very little to do with sexual pleasure, if at all.

In 1997, I founded Power & Trust (a kinky education and support group), with encouragement from my mentor and friend, Goddess Lakshimi. I founded Knotty Knowledge (a rope bondage peer study group) in 2010. Kiltgrrl and I founded Toledo Leather Care (a leather care education and event group) in 2015. Over the years, I have been a member of several groups and clubs (Stocks & Bonds, Ohio SMART, and NWOH TNG to name a few). I was an honorary member of La Fraternitié du Loup-Garou (beta 2013, alpha 2015). I served the club as Webmaster, was the the featured presenter at CampOUT Revival 2014, and was the Programming Coordinator for and a presenter at both CampOUT Reunion 2015 and CampOUT Courage 2016.

I have had the pleasure of being a kink educator for many years. I am most known in the "vanilla" world for my Japanese culture-related bondage lecture/workshop called All Tied Up, the "woo" world for my energy work and hoop meditation workshops, and in the leather and kink communities for rope and fire classes/workshops. Kiltgrrl and I also co-present a variety of conflict resolution and communication topics as well as provide training on consent incident intervention and negotiation facilitation.

Being a judge for Mr. Ripcord Toledo Leather 2013 was both an honor and a delight as well as helping out with the R&J Leather boy 2016 contest as Tally Master. The People of Kink podcast interviewed me on Episode 37 (released 08.04.13) and I was interviewed on TPOK Radio 11/198 (released 04.17.16) and 206 (released 06.12.16).
What's new
I am looking for service oriented individuals that will enhance my life and Household, including time-limited, both ongoing and intermittent, service opportunities at House Aeden as well as at Events. Please read THIS post before contacting me about service opportunities.
Update date
Wednesday, December 14, 2016
Member since
Tuesday, March 29, 2016
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