I am an English, Caucasian male, a 'retired' company director. As time goes by 'me time' fades into fantasy. There's a limit to my willingness to accept what I suspect is not an unusual fate like this. so I am making time for my new alternative lifestyle. I am pleased to have found my way here and already found my feet .Hopefully to bring the lots that I have to offer to a like-minded new friend. I would describe myself as affectionate, and I believe that the few people that know me well would say that I am kind, considerate, intelligent and reliable ( I guess that's why I have no me time). I need Honesty and Empathy.
On the other hand, I'm married but redundant physically, quiet and reserved, and I regret to say that I am unforgiving, I have high standards and often, unrealistically high expectations.
I live in SW Surrey, UK. (Although I describe myself as English, that is physically. Spiritually I am multi-national)
From an early age, I was aware of sensual feelings that I enjoyed but did not understand. There are 'special' memories, coincidentally, of several Janes, Tarzan's Jane, the daily comic strip Jane who was constantly the damsel in distress ( and dis dress ), but the most memorable is Jane Russell, with that cleavage, in The Outlaw. All of this was repressed. My education was only co-ed pre-puberty. After that social life revolved around gender segregated church activities. My desire was clear but frustrating until I met my partner. The world's very different now. I am a good Manager, Diplomatic, Assertive.
Causing Injury, illness, sadness, unwanted distress, SCAT. Anything non-consensual. Not being transparent. Anything illegal. Underage. Unkindness. Rudeness ( excludes bad language) Maybe more I can't think of right now
I have realised that I am multi-national and that impugning my Integrity is unforgiveable!
I have learned to relax, not to attempt the unachievable. I treasure what I have, what's good, what I have achieved through hard work, what I have lost through working too hard, rejected Redundancy. Now I stop and smell the roses ( and the coffee).
I have learned a huge amount being here, including that I am Polyamorous without being disloyal, and I have found happiness here that I thought was an impossibility.