Brand new to the cage so this is just a big inning that I expect to expand and change over time...
I recently returned to the US after living in Europe for almost a decade. A lot has changed since I’ve been gone! Or maybe I’ve changed a lot having been gone. I haven’t decided which yet. Being a world-traveling urbanite, I’ve always lived in major metropolitans like Philadelphia, NYC, London, Milan, etc., so NC is quite an adjustment. “Why NC?” is a common question I get. Because family needed me close by and family is important.
I’ve been told often that I intimidate men. Not that I try to, by any means. But this does make it a bit difficult to be a sub at heart and find a Dom who isn’t intimidated. My personality is very extroverted. I can walk into a crowded room and strike up conversations with just about anybody without feeling nervous or self conscious. Generally an optimist but with a tendency to bemoan ad nauseam anything I believe to be unfair or unjust. New experiences are thrill me so I love exploring people, places, cultures, ideas... just about anything that’s new to me and I get very excited and exuberant about it in the process.
I am a professional in a senior management role and the kind of person who is very dedicated to work during working hours. Maybe a little too dedicated because I forget to eat lunch most days. (I could definitely use some help with balance during the 9-5) I hold 2 master degrees for which I sometimes feel like I’ll never get those student loans paid off! (NOT asking for $$ and never would. The day I finally get done paying, I will feel even more accomplished then when I graduated.)
I have a dog and another puppy on the way. I took on the responsibility for their well being and I take this responsibility very seriously. Full disclosure: their needs come first in all things.
Interested in monogamous D/s LTR.
NO ONLINE ONLY or strictly play partners.
I’m ok with long distance during Covid. There must be intention towards RL once travel is safer again.
I was introduced to BDSM by a boyfriend in my early 20’s. It was mostly in the bedroom. Since then, I’ve had a few D/s relationships and a few vanilla. The vanilla usually ended because my BDSM needs were repressed and left unfulfilled. I’ve come to the realization that I need a power exchange in a relationship to be happy. I need someone to provide guidance and structure in order to keep balance in my life. I like relinquishing control and get a little shiver when told what to do... even bigger shivers when praised for doing it well. I am a pleaser personality.
Some things I know I am into: PE, restraints, floggings, orgasm control / denial / permission, edging, breast / nipple play, sensory deprivation. Trust. Communication.
Would like to try rope bondage.
Nothing illegal, no water sports or scat, blood play or anything leaving permanent scars / marks, punching or face slapping, humiliation (my inner critic is ruthless and doesn’t need any help).
No play partners or online only.