raven rose au

sub female

Single

I have been aware of the lifestyle and my place in it as a submissive for decades.  My awakening, in 2000, occurred when an established Dominant saw in me, something i hadn't known existed.  The next seven years taught me a lot of what i now know of kink and the lifestyle. Some changes and life choices saw me go back ~ just to check to see if i was sure the vanilla life was not for me ~ i am now convinced of where my preferences lay. My submission is not merely a sexual desire to play kinky, it exists in me naturally, in my all day every day kind of way. Don't get me mistaken, i'm not a pushover or a doormat. If you know, you know.

With each new friend or connection i make there is always something new to learn ~ its an evolution.

Let me cheat a little here, because Delaine Moore (SheKnows Article) sums up how I feel by saying,

"What appeals to me the most is the intense cerebral connection — the mind play and the feelings it conjures in me, sometimes all day long (the brain is, after all, the biggest sex organ). The words, the orders, the reprimands, the tone and the downright audacity for him to say it all: Never would I allow anyone else to speak to me in this way, or, over all, to have such deep access into my mind, body and heart.
And I hear myself responding in ways that similarly shock me — from mouthy and totally improper to meek and pleasing or with no air in my lungs at all. All the while I feel with my mind, heart and full body, the anticipation, the fear, the exposure, my power, his control and protection, desire and love. Through the D/s dynamic, I not only feel more alive and aware of my sexuality/sensuality, I learn and own more of myself.” 

I believe Honesty, Communication, Trust & Respect and Care are essential in any dynamic...
Of course they are important anywhere and we should all strive to be good people,  but I need more.

HONESTY ALWAYS is a huge factor for me - lying (even by omission) is the quickest way to lose me as a friend or partner. I can't come back from that!   Its a hard limit for me.  I always walk in my truth and share things as honestly as i know them to be. 
COMMUNICATION is a major focus...getting it right and ensuring we're understood and thoughts are shared appropriately is a big thing to me.    I always try my hardest to be a good communicator and listener, but i am not perfect and i don't expect others to be either. NEGOTIATION ~ speak it ~ hear it ~ alter it ~ work on it ~ CONSENT ~ repeat.
TRUST & RESPECT come with being present, invested and are created from Honesty and Communication, both are earnt and need be continually nurtured.
SSC, RACK, and PRICK - I believe, that all connections between people in the lifestyle should be safe, sane and consensual, its such a catchphrase and people let it role off the tongue like a chant. These three ideals are the keystone, for me, in all of my conversations and connection with other people in the lifestyle. In fact, i will test those constraints and make sure they are identifiable before i will consider anyone a friend and I neither communicate at a deeper level or would consider physical association with people i didn't feel safe with.

My likes and interests are various and many ~ if i make a connection with You, we're likely to have a discussion about these things personally.

*  No Under 18

 *  No Animals

 *  No needles/cutting play/medical play

 *  No electricity play

 *  No toilet play (inc golden showers),

 *  No Drugs or alcohol

the next chapter begins....

Mar 12, 2021