dominantcoffeecake

Male

I am male, 32, married. Lately, I have been trying to take the time to know myself on a more personal level. I work in the helping field, where I constantly give myself to others. I also am married to someone who is not naturally good at being a homemaker, requires extra confirmation/affirmation, and in turn, does not feed into me much. I have always been the one to accommodate everyone else, listen to, and help solve their problems. So, I have taken it upon myself to love and invest back into myself and find the lost parts that I have suppressed for so long. Recently, I rediscovered that I am into the BDSM culture. I previously have tried to block this out because it was not very “christian,” but I have been purposing not to close off part of my identity and interest. I believe BDSM can be and is a part of one’s faith. When reading and researching BDSM, I feel empowered and can envision the lifestyle I want to live inside and outside the bedroom. It excites and fills me with passion accepting that I like and want to be a part of this culture. I am currently looking to gain as much knowledge as I can and make friends in the community. The hope and plan are to present this lifestyle to my wife someday to incorporate BDSM into our lives.

*Discovering*. Minimal experience. In my early 20s, I dated someone who enjoyed being choked, tied up, controlled, bossed around, and spanked. I was talked into ending the relationship(a colossal regret) because those weren’t good christian practices, and I could become a male chauvinist. I now understand that there is a great deal of trust in the dom/sub relationship.

Eager to learn

Learning

I want to be a part of the BDSM culture. I am done suppressing my dominant side.

Mar 25, 2021

Mar 21, 2021