I am not new to this community any longer and I've found although I've research and played i still have things to learn.
I am currently in an open relationship but although we enjoy the swinging side together, he isn't overly keen on the more extreme BDSM side.
I have experienced impact play, wax play, breath play slightly, and some other things that I've enjoyed.
Hard Limits - Fire, Scat, Urine, blood, anything illegal, animals, no permanent scarring, needles, knives, no canes, slippers or wooden spoons.
Soft Limits - I will try most things not on my hard limits list at least once, if I don't like it I do expect my wishes to be adhered to.
Requirement Limit - anything that takes a physical toll, I will need lots of aftercare.