In a monogamous relationship
Little about me; I'm a 50 year old straight male. I am a Dom but I have been known to switch every now and then if it is with the right person because I do enjoy pain.
I have been into BDSM for a little over 25 years now on and off. But I definitely don't pretend to be an authority on all things or anything really. I learn from every experience and it is my goal for my Sub to learn as well.
Safety is most important to me but closely behind are trust, respect and well executed aftercare. In my humble opinion, if those priorities are instituted, then most often times the rest falls into place.
I enjoy rope play, bondage, melding pain with pleasure and much more. I want to learn Shabari but teachers are hard to find and that would be tough to self teach!
But my favorite thing is watching my Sub grow as a person. Learning to overcome fears, take on new challenges and at times break limits when they are ready.
Nothing satisfies me more than my Sub not just stating that they enjoyed the scene but during processing afterwards expressing that they surprised themselves that they pushed through it. That the scene pushed past the envelope and they are proud of that. I believe those things carry over into daily life.
Dom focused on helping subs accomplish their goals and push limits as they desire.
Aftercare is an ABSOLUTE must!