dom male

Relationship status
In a monogamous relationship
About me
I am a CISgender mature straight male. I am not a Dr, the nick name I chose for here was suggested recently by a vanilla friend to reflect my passion for ancient quack electric medical devices - both using and collecting. After some thought I decided to use it for The Cage. 

I am here to learn, and make new friends.
BDSM and me
I have been involved in the lifestyle for awhile now and I identify as being a sensual dominant, and still learning about myself, and the things that interest me. 

I view what I do as being a form of art, but rather than using paint and brushes on a canvas I use the medium of environment, tools and my imagination + skill to take the mind, and senses on a mutually agreed journey - leading to what I hope, aim, is a beautifuly sensual experience.

I believe very strongly that mutual enthusaistic, fully informed consent is the only basis upon which any BDSM/Fetish activity should ever happen there fore I take a very dim view of consent violators. 

My interests are impact play (floggers, whips, paddles, tawse, crops and canes) and bondage (some rope) and also violet wand use - vintage through to modern. 

As long as I can remember I have had inclinations towards kink, but its only relatively recently that those early inclinations have been explored and expressed in the real world. I have interests in dollification, and feminisation. That is expressed in dressing my submissive in very feminine clothing and lingerie. In someways this could be seen as being an ultra fem look.  Skirts, blouses, dresses, corsets and high heel shoes are required (slacks and flats need not apply) as is natural feminity, and sensuality. 

I lean more towards the old school, more formal side of things and the ideals of Leather, rather than the new generation approach - though I respect all peoples dynamics and approach even if its isn't mine. That formal aspect though is not for anyone except those I have a relationship with, so please don't use honorifics if you decide to private message me or if you are chatting to me in the chat room - I am not anyone's Sir or Master except those who are my submissive. 

Aspects of the 1950s household/male head of household and the submissive/surrendered wife ideals appeal to me.

I write a mixture of lifestyle erotica and what is called damsel in distress erotica, often with mind control aspects. That genre appeals to me in the written form, but in a real world context, without consent, would not appeal to me. Willing, enthusiastic, fully informed consent is everything. My stories are mostly flights of fantasy and should not necessarily be seen as reflecting anything more than that, though the real world lifestyle stories do contain, to a degree, kernels of real world experience.


I am currently in a D/s relationship. 

I am not into extreme pain giving, though that is a relative term as what is severe for some isn't for others but I would say that breaking skin and shedding blood isn't for me, nor is leaving skin on those places safe to work on black and blue. I don't ever do impact play on breasts, or slap faces. I am not into scat, water sports, animals, or folks who are underage.


*Important* Folks with blank profiles or one word private messages saying 'Hi' and the like, will more than likely be ignored, and the sender potentially blocked, same goes for folks in chat rooms who don't understand that its good form to ask for my consent to private chat, or send a pm.
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'You are the Song, and I am the singer, you the canvas, I am the artist' 
Update date
Tuesday, November 21, 2017
Member since
Friday, November 3, 2017
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