I am respectful, kind and caring with somewhat of a temper that never lasts long. I believe that respect and trust are earned not just in the D/s but in life in general. I can be stern when needed but enjoy having fun more. I enjoy bondage, impact play, control in many forms, open communication, trust enough that my sub and I can discuss any need or want without judgment or fear of being judged in a negative way.
Found this on The Cage in one of the Blog posts it fits my view of the life pretty well.
Neither dominance or submission is some sort of cookie cutter thing, this is this and this is that. Broader thinking and understanding is required, a more open mind. Of course you are free to define what you want and need and that can be as narrow as you desire, authentic to you but equally submissives can and should be authentic to what they need and want and the kind of dominance their energy will respond to. Doing so does not make them anymore or less submissive than your ideas do you a dominant.
Just because their way of being does not fit with your ideas does not make them any less genuine or authentic, just people who are not compatible and whos submissive energy does not match your needs, ideas, and your energy does not suit them. There is no such thing as true, in this case, no black and white but shades in between. Dominance and submission is a dance and finding a suitable dance partner to dance the dance with is where the magic comes about.
The usual- SSC ( Safe, Sane, Consensual) is my base line