I am a single male switch (with a very submissive side) who wants to be married to a Switch Female Wife (with a strict Dominant/Sadistic side). I am a Romantic at heart and believe BDSM as a way to enhance the romance in a relationship. A good Dominant is one who takes the time to understand what a submissive's triggers (both positive and negative) are, and that being a Dominant is not all about just doing what he wants. No two submissives nor no two Dominants are exactly the same, in what there fetishes, kinks, and fantasies are. Each of us are drawn to the various forms of BDSM play by our life experiences and thoughts. I am completely open-minded to all fetishes and kinks.
I first because interested in BDSM when I read The Story of "O", when I was 15, and started exploring BDSM play when I was 17. I have been both a Dominant and a submissive with females at various points in my life. I started in the lifestyle as a Dominant, but one night after playing with a female masochist friend she told me she wanted to dominate me. I had never been submissive before and no one has ever asked to dominate me, but after all the things she let me explore with her, I felt it was only fair to let her explore her dominant side, so I agreed.
The next time we met to play she took control the minute she walked in my front door. She was so brutal and sadistic, even ignoring my safe-word several times, but I did not care because I really liked her and I was so turned-on by her dominance over me. After that experience with her we took turns being dominant and submissive to each other.
Since my relationship with her my submissive desires have grown deeper. I was a male slave to a Mistress/Dominatrix and Her husband for 2 years, but was released 8 years ago. I learned a lot more about my submissive/masochistic side, and having explored my submissive side I feel makes me a better Dominant, and having been a Dominant made me a better submissive.
I enjoy both the Dominant and submissive sides of the BDSM spectrum and want to find a Switch Female (preferably with a very strict Dominant/Sadistic side) for a long-term relationship that leads to marriage. I am looking for my best friend, lover and wife, for the rest on my life.
* As a Dominant I respect all limits, and use "safe-words", and believe is safe, sane and consensual
* As a submissive my limits depend on the person I am with because I really want them to explore what ever they want to do with me.
* I can have a high pain tolerance if I am kept sexually aroused during play.
* Just being beaten repeatedly without a break or any sexual stimulation is difficult to maintain.
* A Mistress who will alternate between a spank and edging, to teach this slave to associate pain with pleasure is most desirable.
As a Dominant the things I am into are (but not required):
* Forced Bi (especially first experience)
* CMNF - Clothed Male Naked Female
* Pussy Stretching
* Rope Bondage (Shibari / Kinbaku)
* Toys (Fucking Machines / Suction Pumps / Dildos)
* Role Play of all kinds:
---Daddy/daughter
---Teacher/student
---Landlord/tenant
* Candle Hot Wax Play
* Bare-hand Spanking / Paddles / Canes / Floggers
* Domination/submission
* Medium Sadism/masochism
* Master / slave
* Mistress & Master / slave
* Water Sports / Golden Showers / Enemas
* Anal Training / Forced Insertions
* Nipple Pumps / Fucking Machines
* Humiliation, Degradation,
* Name calling "slut", "bitch", "cunt". etc.)
* Objectification
* Extreme Orgasm Denial / Pro-longed Edging.
* Daily Oral Cock Worship / Forced cock-sucking
* Harsh Discipline leaving bruises
* Maintenance Spankings
* Pushing limits
As a submissive the things I am into (and anything You desire) are:
* FemDom (submitting to all Women)
* Switches (Women who like to Dominate their men)
* Cuckold - Forced Bi of all Her boyfriends/lovers.
* Polyandry - women having two or more husbands.
* CFNM - Clothed Female Naked Male
* Being kept comletely shaven sissy smooth
* Rope Bondage (Shibari / Kinbaku)
* Toys (Fucking Machines / Suction Pumps / Dildos)
* Role Play of all kinds (Kinky Nurse, etc.)
* Candle Hot Wax Play
* Bare-hand Spanking / Paddles / Canes / Floggers
* Domination/submission
* Medium Sadism/masochism
* Mistress/slave
* Mistress & Master/slave (Mistress as Primary).
* Lesbian Mistresses (slave to one or both).
* Water Sports / Golden Showers / Enemas
* Anal Training / Forced Insertions
* Strap-On Play / Fucking Machines
* Humiliation, Degradation,
* Name calling "slut", "bitch", "cunt". etc.)
* Sissification, Forced Feminization
* Extreme Orgasm Denial / Pro-longed Edging.
* Daily Oral Worship / Forced cock-sucking
* Being Disciplined Harshly leaving bruises
* Maintenance Spankings
* Maintenance Strap-On Fuckings
* Having limits pushed