creative writer, occasional lecturer and an avid fencer. I work in Health and Socal Care. Overly passionate. I am highly caring but I do have a sadistic streak. I'm an empath who has ADHD.It can make me over exciteable and occasionally hyperactive. I read extensively...enjoy films and do have an active socal life. I'm confident but do have my insecurities, these are managed and do not effect my every day life. I'll leave my surreal sence of humour up to to judge as funny or not. My interests are very wide ranging I enjoy learning and researching.
I am currently undergoing training to become a kink aware counsellor, there is a real need in the community for counsellors and psychotherapists who can work without judgment and have a deep understanding of the culture in which we live it is my aim to be able to eventually provide a safe listening space that holds no judgement.
I am more then happy for newbies and old hands alike to message me privately or in chat regarding questions, advice or just to get some shit off their chest.
I have a intrest in ritual and pagan BDSM. although I do practice it its been a very long time since I have explored this aspect.
I've been thinking about my personal style of domination, it's been described as teacher like and strict. I can be naturally belittling, I have a narural intesity to me, that comes out when I'm in the process of training a sub. Something akin to an old school master could be one way of looking at it.
I enjoy headfuckery, mind games and disobedient brats. I find those who consider themselves to be natural submissive very appealing. I don't like the idea of BDSM as being a game that's played in half mesures if your unlikely to treat this as a lifestyle I probably won't be intrested.
I'm a controlled Sadist who has over 10 years experience, on and off the scene. I treat BDSM as a martial art that takes time, dedication and constent learning.
My interests include
Creative Humiliation
Denial/Desperation
Hard Use
Edge Play (sharps including needles) (with the right person)
Control
Hypnosis (only with those I have a very strong bond with)
Sensory Deprevation/Overload
sensual play.
Preferred Toys
Canes (both as punishment and a way to build up for more intence play) despite what you may think a cane can be an extremely sensual tool.
Floggers
Single tail Whips and Bull Whips
Shackles,Rope and other Restraints.
Knives
Mind-fold (a blindfold that is used to enhance an altered state of consciousness)
DIY toys it's fun making things that hurt...
Those that don't take SSC or RISK seriously
Age Play is a limit but I am happy to talk to and be friends with age players
I do not play under the influence (this excludes MDMA under certain circumstances and only with people who I am so close to I'd be doing MDMA with)
I try to avoid playing with nassasistic personality types, although this may sound judgmental it come out of a place of personal emotional safety.
Things change and that's ok
CPD Kink aware counselling (in training )