Lit By Kit

sub female

Single

❤️I am not just a submissive. I am a mother first and foremost. My children will always come first. ❤️

Outside of BDSM concepts, I genuinely enjoy spending time with my children, reading, writing (especially poetry styles), listening to and singing with music, baking, cooking, and watching movies.

My favorite series will always be Harry Potter. But as I aged so too did my taste in books and now I spend a lot of my reading pleasure time reading romance novels with BDSM involved either obviously or as an undertone.

I can watch and enjoy almost any movie from Disney to a black and white western to action. Not all movies are great movies but all genres have great movies.

I enjoy many genres of music and love songs across all the genres. But I will always be a country music fan at heart.

Anyone I entered a dynamic with would have to be someone that enjoys home cooking and someone that bakes for them as I love to do both.

I have been in this version of Wonderland officially for 11 almost 12 years. But I've never had a relationship that didn't have some aspect of BDSM to it.

That said:
➡️I've been with the ❌FAKE DOM❌ who taught me how to recognize the signs of one. I learned quickly and learned well. I'm still too trusting at times but only to a certain extent.
➡️I've been with the ❌Wrongly Labeled Dom❌ who taught me that just because a Dom identifies as something doesn't mean that that is an accurate portrayal of what they really are. And I learned that that is an important distinction.
➡️I have tried ❌POLYAMORY❌ and realized that that is not for me. And no matter how much I was willing to try, it was never going to be. And it never will be. But I tried it.

I have learned many things about myself and my desires purely through trying different things. At the end of the day, I cannot fully regret any venture I went down but I would not go down them again. But, in hindsight, I would change few of the choices I made in the past. They all led me to the knowledge and understanding I have today.

❌I stay within the bounds of the laws where the laws make sense. (Pretty sure there's some states with laws that would make impact play illegal and I like it a bit too much).
❌I don't involve children into BDSM. You must be 18+. And I'll be honest, I no longer generally accept anyone younger than I. (You having kids is fine. I love children but children are children. Not to be involved into the BDSM aspect of any dynamic).
❌Scat & Other Bodily Functions. I don't feel I need to elaborate on this one. If you don't understand what that is, pull out a dictionary.
❌Blood. Listen, I don't like blood. You won't like my reaction to my blood. I'll get pale. Things will get messy. And not in a good way. Let's just leave blood out of it.
❌Needle/Gun Play. I like adventure as much as the next girl. More in some cases. But needles make me want to pass out and guns pointed at me just make me anxious.

I suppose it is time to update my profile just a little bit.

Following just one too many messages:
✅I am not looking. Not for you. Not for the ones that want to push their Dominance upon me. Submission is earned. Always.
✅I am not interested. See above. Too many of you think you can message a sub and expect total obedience and submission immediately. I am not the one and today is not the day.
✅I have zero slave tendencies and it’s not the aspect that appeals to me in any way.
✅I do not want to be your sub. Why? Because if you just messaged me expecting exactly what I've outlined above? You're not a real Dom and I don't like being burned.
✅If you can't hold a conversation out of the BDSM spectrum as well as within it, save us both the time. Intelligence is not just classy and attractive. It's a requirement.

Nov 10, 2024

Feb 8, 2022