Chicago, Illinois, United States
About me
Ok, I'd barely finished writing my profile before I got a bunch of PMs from single male doms. And I thought FetLife was bad!

Guys, I'm a lesbian! So, stop it! I know you're one of millions and bloody desperate but, really, you'll have better luck with the kik crowd and your wallet.

And single male Indian doms: No. I'm not going to relocate to Delhi and become a victim of your human trafficking operation. Please go away.

OK, I hope I'm clear now.

It's been eight years since I was last a part of the scene in Chicago. Reasons are simplified to a marriage that didn't work and a career which has kept me pretty busy. That said, now that life has somewhat settled, I find myself yearning to re-explore subspace with a partner willing to retrain and help take those voyages with fresh eyes. In return, I pledge a partnership that is drama free, isn't all about "me me me" and, as much as I yearn for the release inherent with the joys of pain and pleasure, a promise never to top from the bottom. I think that's the correct term- I'm rusty.

My only boundaries, outside of the usual scat and animal prohibitions, are breath and knife play. Everything else is only bordered by your imagination. Pain is a plus.

As for who I am, the basics are investigative writer, lover of the arts and unapologetic nerd (author of angry dissertations on how Dr. Who has been wrecked by a clueless show-runner and why the ending of BSG remains a slap in the face).

Speaking of, I am a pain-slut at least as defined by Urban Dictionary and Russian/Czech BDSM videos). As for the rest, no spoilers, feel free to find out for yourself.

(I'm randomly inserting my middle name here: Gretchen. People who use it in PMs will go a very long way to impressing me. Reading has rewards).

Although I'm a submissive at heart, I have switched for (not on) a Domme before.

I am happy to entertain a dialogue with folks out of the area but not international. I don't plan on moving countries just yet.


Men, only should reach out if they are gentlemen. A picture of your penis will be sent straight to Maplethorpe with a request for a commission.

NO TRANS/CDs. Before the angry Twitter mob descends, I am allied to everything you are/want to be. It just doesn't float my sexual boat.

Lastly, I am on assignment in Indianapolis until April/May but Chicago is and remains home. But, if there is someone also wandering in the Indiana desert gasping for the broad-minded, then find me.

WARNING: Any institutions or individuals using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You DO NOT have permission to use any of my profile or pictures or video posts in any form or forum past, current or future. If you have or do, it will be considered a violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications.

Offer not available in Alaska, Hawaii or Puerto Rico, certain restrictions apply, certain restraints will be applied. Batteries always included.
children, animals, poo.
Knives and fire with anyone who isn't a professional who has won safety awards.
Update date
Mar 21, 2022
Member since
Mar 20, 2022
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