deepandspiritual

sub female

61

Single

Just a hint: If you have little or nothing on your own profile and send me a one line message such as "Hey how are you doing?" there simply won't be enough to grab my interest and have me respond. I am sapiosexual and demisexual and I need to know someone will have the desire and capacity to meet me on that field.

ME:
I am submissive even when I wish I could be vanilla. It seems life could be so much easier, but it is not who I am and so the search for that divine connection goes on.

I am looking for that resonance that is so strong, so undeniable, so intense that I find it impossible to not think of you in every way. With time and trust all your desires will become my greatest fantasies. It is the nature of my submission. I want a best friend, a lover, and a confidant. Less than that and I am ok to be alone.

I am deep, creative and spiritual and hoping for the same in you. I am smart and attracted to intelligence, but can't deny that heart and soul are really everything to me. A lover of life and an explorer of the human spirit.

Strength and a commanding presence turn me when they come from a high state of consciousness. Emotional connection, vulnerability, spiritual connectivity are all important to me. Someone who has put the time into learning this, and will put the time into learning me.

I crave the submissive space and all it's magic but for me it is linked to emotional connection and romance. I am not a "play partner" and so I must like and respect you first as a person and know I can totally trust you. Sex and D/s are amazing pieces of a relationship but vanilla things need to be aligned as well. That doesn't mean that we need to love to do all the same things, it just means there is an energy of understanding of how we move through our vanilla worlds so that we can support and admire each other.

I love adoration in both directions.

I do not relate to being a little girl or princess. I love being cared for and taken care of , not like a child but like a woman. I love to take care of my man in so many ways, in and out of the bedroom. In the bedroom I like the D/s to be very strong. Out of the bedroom, I cannot be submissive in every way and yet I don't want to let go of it entirely. My vision is that my Dom would know how to keep the energy of that D/s and intimacy alive even outside the bedroom without impinging on my warrior nature. In fact he would know how to stoke the fire of my creative and free spirit as he cloaks me in his protection and embrace. And I would hopefully inspire him in all the ways he needs.

I have had only two experiences with Doms. They were totally different and both exquisite. So not a lot of experience, but enough to know I can never go back to vanilla. Each had 25+ years in the lifestyle, and for the knowledge and skill that came with that experience I am grateful. I have been to the beautiful world of subspace, where everything earthly melts away. It is an amazing spiritual experience. Yes I hunger for this, but more I hunger for the depth of the bond that gets forged between us from sharing this sacred journey in and out of the bedroom.

You know that it is me who gives you the keys to all the hidden doors inside my soul that I don't even know exist, and I trust you to know how to use those keys to fling them open so we both fly through them together.

I am a world of contradictions. Sometimes what I think turns me off, somehow turns me on.

I crave to crave to submit to you. There is such a difference between doing what I am told and craving to do what I am told. I am only interested in the man that can get me to the latter. To that deep space where desire is all I know. It may or may not be easy, that depends on so many things. I can be particular and put up resistance if any little thing feels off, but I have learned that sometimes that is because something is truly off between us and sometimes it is just my fear of pushing against my limitations. Patience and understanding for the concept of resistance, where it comes from and what it takes to have it disappear will be a great asset. Because when it disappears it is utterly magical, sometimes more profound than if the resistance was not there to be overcome. I do not mean that I am bratty, I don't believe I am. I am honest. I am open to growing, THAT to me is what this world is all about. Are you open to growing too? Just because one is Dom and the other sub doesn't mean that both people don't grow. I have interacted with too many Doms that think that being Dom means they are supposed to know everything and always be right. That kind of ego will wear on me and will show me the limitations of what is possible rather than the potential. But if you are a seeker of transformation and growth of both yourself and of us, I will be putty in your hands. Figuring/intuiting the whole puzzle out will be a magical journey between us and worlds of beauty will inevitably open up.

I am looking to feel so emotionally safe that the risk of the danger zone is exciting and doable because I know you will catch me. I used to think it was tricky, but it is really about that right divine connection. The emotional connection must come before the physical. In the end I crave the D/s relationship as a means to experience the deepest levels of trust, depth, intimacy, spiritual connection, healing, self awareness and growth of our souls.


YOU:

You will inevitably surprise me. After all you will be you with all the ways you are that give me things I never knew I always needed until you gave them to me.

You know how to string words and sentences together in beautiful ways to excite my mind and heart. This may be my greatest aphrodisiac so please don't brush this off as minor. Speak your truth to me from the center of your being and my body will respond.

You are experienced. We cannot be the blind leading the blind here. I am so attracted to that true power, clear headed calmness, and ability to spin the magic that comes from experience and rigorous self evaluation and course correction.

You will want to know me. Really know me. Not just what turns me on in the bedroom, but who I am in all of life, in my heart and soul. And you will want to be known as deeply.

A spiritual Dominant who dominates me elegantly with a brilliant mind and open heart. You understand that I am unique, as all women are, and are enamored by my particular uniqueness. You can slowly develop all aspects of a relationship, read me with intrigue, respond to me authentically, and find the way that is truly a creation of us.

You are honest, really, all the time, no BS, no hiding behind the computer

You are a seeker of personal growth and development as a primary goal in life and love.

You love laughter and lightness

You are financially stable and responsible

You want a woman with a mind, who uses it and speaks it not in a bratty way, but in a real way.

You are fiercely loyal to all those you love

You are drug free, light or non drinker and non smoker

You are confident not arrogant, masculine not macho

And most of all you are deeply connected spiritually and enthralled with the divine magic and love of the universe

They will need to be discussed and will probably change over time. One thing I will say here is that I will never have the first meeting be anywhere but in a public place. I have been baited and switched with this one more times than I can count. Please spare us the time and me the emotional rollercoaster, it will not happen.

May 10, 2022