j84
dom male

Premium
Austin, Texas, United States
Age
40
Relationship status
In a monogamous relationship
About me
If you need someone to dominate you because you believe BDSM reifies some kind of "natural order" then move along. I don't subscribe to the idea of any intrinsic differences of value or station between people.

Behaving as if this were true by means of a mutually derived understanding gets me off.

Me:
- Enjoy cooking
- Moderately nerdy
- Read scifi/fantasy for fun
- Enjoy lifting
- Enjoy travel
- Liberal leftist political views
- Tendency towards analysis
- Very private
- Straight
- Married
- Wife is bi and submissive

If you have a question, feel free to ask.
BDSM and me
== Results from bdsmtest.org == 
100% Dominant 
100% Rigger 
100% Non-monogamist 
99% Degrader 
99% Master/Mistress 
97% Sadist 
87% Owner 
80% Daddy/Mommy 
62% Primal (Hunter) 
58% Experimentalist 
51% Voyeur 
50% Exhibitionist 
11% Ageplayer 
0% Vanilla 
0% Switch 

I disagree with the sadism rating. My mean streak surfaces occasionally. When being mean, I get turned on by the sub enduring something at my behest and not the pain/discomfort. Not sure if that is still sadism.

In truth, I don't particularly enjoy administering true punishments and would prefer they were not required. Unfortunately, rules are rules and all the rest. I do, however, enjoy excuses to spoil and as such become even more unhappy when forced to do just the opposite. 
 
Also interested in hypnotism and operant conditioning.

BDSM has been a journey of understanding myself for 7 years now.

In retrospect, the signs were obvious as far back as middle school. I often thought of what some other person I knew could acheive if they just allowed me to controll their actions. These ideas still manifest without conscious or deliberate invitation. In my early 20s, I remember telling a lover that I enjoyed sex but it seemed to be missing something.

I feel like I need a real friendship before BDSM even becomes relevant. Just not into spending extra time with people I don't care for, much less pour energy into them. 


Limits
Animals, serious injury, blood, scat, breeding, children, public play
What's new
Interested in finding a community that fits.
Update date
Dec 13, 2017
Member since
Dec 10, 2017
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