Submissive, not a switch, not poly, not bisexual.
Sapiosexual, demisexual. INFJ.
Accepting myself as I am, love to write, reading, woodworking, art and jewelry crafting, kayaking, hiking, dancing, and want to learn your hobbies and interests on the regular. I am a loving and giving person and have my faults that I am working on changing so I can be a better human.
My three sons are my world so please respect that.
I am a submissive. I have learned that there is a lot I do not know yet about myself. Learning will always be evolving for me.
I feel certain behaviors have no place in my life and I am still working on fixing my faults. I am human, loving, forgiving, and connect best through written and verbal communication, and physical touch, affection.
I've made many mistakes in both vanilla and BDSM relationships, and I am working on learning from that. My blog is also a good way to understand how I see life and relationships.
Not up for discussion. My Dominant is the only one who needs to know.
I enjoy my hair being brushed while snuggling a blanket or my stuffie. I have my middle moments when experiencing emotional situations and she comes out when I feel completely safe and know I can trust you. That is as far as that goes. That is when I am feeling very vulnerable and please don't use it against me.
Names I like: Princess, babygirl, good girl, "mine" , beautiful, my love, kitten, babydoll, precious, my sweet submissive, dirty girl, naughty girl, Daddy's whore, Sir's cumslut.
You must be ethical in your Dominance. My time is just as valuable as yours, and my children are my priority. If you don't communicate with me and just dominate the conversation and are not willing to share equal voice time, don't bother. Do not call me any honorific or pet name if you have not earned that. I am romantic and want that in my future Dominant and dynamic as well.
I love choker necklaces and do wear them. It in no way implies or means I am collared. If I become collared, it will be different entirely.
I also have a busy role in vanilla life as a single woman and mother to sons in therapy or college. If you cannot handle a delay because of outages of internet, no cell phone reception, or my schedule, then we won't work. I live in US central time.
I also pay my own bills. However, should we develop a true long term life committed dynamic, the household management would be different.
Also, I am 5ft even, and last weight check I was 192. I am not skinny but not awful either. Again, transparency. Expecting to have surgery sometime this year to reconstruct my abdominal area. ****had my surgery on Valentine's Day, and 4 weeks into a 6-12 week recovery. All staples and drains are gone. ****Fully recovered, and my body is adjusting back to normal activity nicely.
What I am looking for seems to be a common question yet difficult to find, and I do not expect perfection so neither should you. Nitpicking my flaws as you see them is a good way to tear down any trust beginning to be established. If you have not read my profile, then don't ask me that question, because that means you do not value my mind or my time. I will not repeat all of what I have here because of laziness. I am sure, as always, this will evolve.
My end goal is to be in love with my Dominant, always but freely choosing to surrender, kneel and submit myself to him, owned and collared, with an extra desire to maybe be legally married to my life Dominant. He will appreciate my words, my thoughts ,and my interests that I bring to the relationship first and want to share some of those activities together, then to the dynamic. I am playful, goofy, dorky, loving, affectionate, and love to just walk up, smack his ass, kiss him first, hold him when he is having a hard day or crying, and remind him he and his feelings matter too. That I have his back. A deeply committed relationship that might look vanilla but with a deep D/s dynamic naturally woven in and cherished. A day collar for vanilla worlds to see, and our special submissive collar in the bedroom. To me, the collar is the display of ownership and property, of commitment and complete surrender. Full trust and safety. Because of medical testing, any collar with a lock must have extra keys with one for me to keep on me, in case of emergency. I was last tested in Nov/Dec 2022 and April 2026 for STIs and I am negative/no reacrive, and have the documentation to back that up. I do not smoke or do drugs. I am not 420 friendly as I am allergic to it. Occasional drinks at home, but not if entering into a scene.
Have an amazing day and thank you.