kaffeknot

sadist male

54

In a polyamorous relationship

As you may have guessed, I ain't normal. Accept that. I shall accept you in aaaall of your peculiarities and idiosyncrasies as well! <Acceptance doesn't mean I'll like you as a person, just that I accept you.> Just because I may appear normal at times, don't let the outside fool you. However I am happy with myself. In fact, I am always learning, growing, working on becoming the best me possible and the happiest me I can be with my now.

I believe in and practice a fluid-bonded, closed-group variety of the polyamorous lifestyle. One friend describes it as physically-closed (but permeable), emotionally open. I find it wonderful to openly love and accept those around me. I am lucky to have found some very special people to have shared the journey thus far, helping me develop my own boundaries and family. As with anything, though, real-life and my own foibles get in the way sometimes and cause collateral damage. My apologies for unintended hurt. I feel the urge to mention the application of adult undergarments here for some reason.

As to my personality, I am a dominant/daddy and a sadist and like playing with rope. I enjoy and revel in the control given up by the submissive and the inherent responsibilities. A true joy is the submissive who serves and obeys out of the desire to please me. Sometimes it really is the small things that matter. The look of submission in their eyes mixing with the look of adoration and pleasure from serving. The joy is incredible when the masochist revels in the pain I offer them. ponders I guess you should call me a hedonistic sadist and dominant. 0}=>~

I enjoy using various toys in my play, but rope is more than a toy -- it is an extension of me and is my brush applied to the canvas of flesh. Rope play is spiritual and sadistic to me. Let me put my rope on you, and you'll join me on my dreamwalk. My rope is my touch, my embrace.

The following are two quotes from Akechi Denki from an interview with Osada Steve (found here) which resonate with me as how rope should be:

Akechi Denki: In SM, shibari is communication between two people using the medium of rope. It’s a connection made with rope between the hearts of two people. So the rope should embrace with love, like the arms of a mother embracing her child. The submissive has placed her entire trust in you.
When I get on stage at the beginning of a show, I don’t have any ideas about what I'm going to do. I empty my mind. Then the ideas just come to me, from within or from the partner I’m working with. Sometimes the ropes move on their own and my hands just follow, and that is always an amazing experience. I just disappear. The shibari is always very beautiful when that happens.

Adepto perdidit in funis!
Get lost in the rope!

I have also found that I incorporate a lot of natural energy play and pressure points into my scenes. I play intimately -- very up-close and personal. I use my entire body to hurt you, from my head to my toe, though it's not a toe of stone. I pinch, bite, head butt, step on, grab, elbow and use whatever to reach deep down into my partners to find that place where we are one in their suffering and they can let go. As you can tell, I am a cuddly, fuzzy dominant, or so I've been told. pfffft

I am a streamer and content creator. Find the links below. I make paracord and rope * bracelets, anklets, collars, belly "chains", belts and necklaces -- and toys * upon request and for a moderate price. I might even make you some (non-load-tested) rope if you ask nicely :) I'm just crafty that way. Hey, provide the ribbon, I'll even make you a bow or three, even a tree-topper. I used to make a lot of my own toys but learned that the best ones are me and my rope.

Also, part of who I am is the wolf in nature. Protective and feral -- and seemingly very much the one in control. My personality type is ENTJ (Extroverted iNtuitive Thinking Judging), or the * General *. So this makes me possibly one of the Ulfhednar, the lupine version of the Berserkr of Norse beliefs. Though I was born at the 1st quarter moon and not under a full moon. lol

My sense of humor can range from dry (loads of British comedies and Mel Brooks growing up) to overtly sexual. I laugh at most things, including myself, as there is humor in everything...yes, everything.

I am an open and accepting person. Very rarely do I meet someone with whom I cannot get on, though over time I may come to the conclusion that I should limit my time with some. I view each person as worthy until they prove otherwise. The easiest ways to do that are to not accept that I make mistakes too or to presume that my life, kink or faith choices are indicative of a lack of intelligence or inherent moral structure. My faith is in Yeshua Emmanuel based on what the scriptures, reason and the spirit reveal. I also accept those of all faiths as it really isn't about what you believe but what you do.

I am a voracious reader and get lost in literature from time to time. I am a LOTR and Tolkien fan, Trekker, sci-fi fan, SCAdian, Dr. Who fan (Tom Baker really is the best one), watch documentaries, listen to an eclectic variety of music (and my preferences change from moment to moment), and actually enjoy opera and the ballet. I like a wide spectrum of music. Love me some dubstep and punk and folk music. I also am an avid Destiny player.

Mar 22, 2023

Mar 22, 2023