I am going to keep this 100.
I am a Caucasian male in my late 50's. Six feet tall and in good health.
I go to the gym 3 times a week , and have about 20 lbs to lose, before I get back to my ideal weight of 215 lbs
I am self employed, and enjoy my life. I do not Drink, Smoke or do drugs. With that said.
I am from a culture that is about the Man being the Dominant and the woman being subservient to him. It is also a culture, that does short work of men who cannot assert themselves in a Dominant manner. It has always been in my nature to be Dominant, and I do not know how to be anything else. I am not comfortable in any relationship (Domestic, Professional, Business) where I have to play second fiddle to anyone. If, it is in the context of having to learn something, I can deal with that. This is also the reason why I am self employed. While in the famous words of Bob Dylan's "you gotta serve somebody". I like that serving somebody to be as as minimal as possible.
I am a Dominant who has been out of the lifestyle for a long long time. Met a woman who was not into it, fell in love. got married, had kids, you get the drift. Love has a funny way of wrecking the best laid plans of one's life. I will add that while I curtailed my Dominant sexual nature while married, that did not mean I extinguished the flame altogether. I just channeled it in a different direction. My children have grown to become assertive adults, with heads on their shoulders, and goals in their lives. My former wife, who was an introverted little mouse, with my guidance, has grown into a formidable woman in her own right. However, the relationship has come to an end(over a year now), and I am ready to reacquaint myself with what I once enjoyed Wholeheartedly . I will admit I am rusty and feel like the USS Missouri coming out of retirement during the gulf war. That said, I need to reacquaint myself with this primal need inside of me. As a rusted individual, I have my work cut out for me to get back in form. Therefore I am not looking for RL as a starting point. Online is preferable as I can ease myself back into it all at a comfortable pace, and level. Dust the old cobwebs out of my kinks and allow me to regain the finesse I once had. However, at some point in the future, it will have to lead to IRL, and LTR.
I will not profess to claim a PHD, or university level education. Apart from High School, and white collar technical college, My education comes from, the school of hard knocks, and the streets. What I know in life, I learned by educating myself, and bettering myself. ( have my work cut out for me reacquainting myself. Good thing, I see a-lot of blogs and forums I can absorb.)
I do however on occasion enjoy the finer things that life has to offer, on a cultural, and social level. I am as comfortable in jeans and a leather jacket riding a motorcycle, as I am dressed in a suit driving a car.
This is about it for things about me. Anything else you would like to know. You will have to ask.
RL experiences in being A Dominant.
I have had numerous online subs that I trained in my youth, Back in the days when IRC was king of the online chat world, and literotica was just starting out. When nascent BDSM websites were being started by enthusiastic people, and not corporations. I have also had a couple of subs in real life prior to my retirement, and meeting my future wife.
Domination and submission.
What D/s means to me.
A Dom does not Dominate a sub. A sub by her submission allows a Dom to Dominate her. Domination is not about ordering a sub around, but rather having the sub volunteer to do what is asked before it is asked because she wants to please. This need to please, comes from the mind and nowhere else.
To me submission comes from the seduction of a sub's mind. Not physical control, but rather mental control. Seduction of the mind is a totally different matter. Once a sub surrenders her mind to her Dom, the rest of her follows. A sub who has surrendered her mind to her Dom, thinks of nothing but pleasing her Dom. He is on her mind 24/7, and her own mind will not let her forget that.
A Dom, who has seduced the mind of a sub and she has submitted herself mind, body, and soul to him has a great responsibility towards his sub. Insuring, the emotional, mental and physical well being of his sub as she explores her desires, and limits. That said, there is a lot of subs with different needs, and desires.
I can be a laid back Dom, or a 24/7 Dom. I can be a disciplinary Dom. I can be a forceful Dom who pushed boundaries and tests limits. I can also be a sadistic Dom. I have dabbled in all the different aspects of it. When one has an urge in them to Dominate, one has to adapt to the needs, and desires of the sub that is available. Your wish, is literally, my command. (some of you subs think you have no power, I know better.)
My kinks are many and I am into many many things, as I have tried them in my earlier years. Now when it comes to my kinks, I want to make it absolutely clear. They are my kinks and not necessarily your kinks. As long as one or more of your kinks mesh with mine, we are good to go. I will always respect a subs limits, even if their limits curtail the things I love to do the most. That said, there is one word that means nothing to me. That word is No. A submissive saying the word No to me when we are engaged in play, is the equivalent of her shooting spitballs at me through a straw. A submissive using their safe word on the other hand, is the equivalent of a Nuclear ICBM with multiple warheads staring down on me. It will stop me dead in my tracks in a heartbeat.
After Care is very important to me, and I strive to provide the best after care I can. Whether it is online or IRL. I am good at Massages, amongst other things.
I will not ghost you, ignore you, find excuses not to talk to you . Once we connect, we connect. If things don't work out, then as adults we signal that to the other party involved, end things amicably, and move on.
Anything else you would like to know? All you have to do is ask.
What I am looking for is as follows, in order of preference;
- Vanilla Married Women who are curious about D/s
- Women who are curious about D/s or have experience.
- brats are welcome, provided you have an off switch and are not a 24/7 brat.
- Most Important: A Ride or Die kind of Sub, because I am a Ride or Die kind of Dom.
The following are my flaw and not yours.
- Not into baby girls or littles looking for Daddy's.
- Not into BBW.
- Not into Trans.
Absolute limits, non negotiable, and deal breaking.
Nothing Illegal
No Permanent Marks
No scat, piss, or vomit play.
All others will be on the kink checklist.
This is a work in progress.
I am not posting any photos of me, however 1 photos will be made available upon request to whoever contacts me, or I contact them. All future photos will depend on how well things move along.
I will, for the moment not buy a membership as I am checking this site out. That said, if all checks out to my satisfaction, then a membership will be forth coming.