Hello, I'm a 40-year-old man with two college degrees. Although I haven't worked within my fields of study yet I'm actively seeking to change that and pursue my professional aspirations. I do not smoke and rarely drink. Honesty and keeping my word are fundamental values in my life. When it comes to romantic relationships, I am a loving and caring individual, but only when I'm with someone who reciprocates those qualities.
I have a deep fascination with micromanagement, extending beyond the realm of BDSM into all areas of life. Very much into edging denial and very VERY long periods of chastity or abstinence. I am not into scenes but incorporating BDSM into our everyday life and being ourselves. Scenes to me feel fake, like theater. I am NOT looking for a bedroom submissive. I am looking for a 24/7 TPE type of arrangement. I'm searching for either a romantic or a strictly s/m relationship with a traditional, exceptionally submissive girl or a slave who enjoys having every aspect of their life decided for. Someone very passive who wants to commit their life to me and to making it their life goal to ensure I have total control and authority over them. Someone that wants to forgo her privacy, her selfish and material desires and the responsibility of making her own decisions. She must be able to completely let go of her autonomy until she is well trained, her behavior aligns with my desires and her thoughts and beliefs align with mine. My search is for someone who also understands the significance of trust and knows that I will always have their best interests at heart. I am looking for a serious relationship where we can grow together. You will be my right hand, my most reliable person, supporting me on my path to our success and our life long journey as a couple. Extreme obedience is a crucial aspect of our dynamic, regardless of the discomfort, boredom, tediousness, embarrassment, difficulty, or pain it may involve. Commitment, loyalty, respect and a strong desire to please are essential traits I seek in a partner. I value an altruistic, humble and low-ego mindset. It's important to note that I am not here to play games or engage in casual affairs. I am sincerely looking for someone who is committed and willing to prioritize my happiness and pleasure. In return, I will dedicate myself to your well-being and ensure a fulfilling, trust-based connection. I am not looking for a spoiled brat or someone that will fight me every step of the way. She must be willing and able to take "no" for an answer and respect and trust my decisions more than her own judgement and instincts. If you possess the right attitude, a willingness to listen, and an eagerness to learn, I encourage you to reach out. Let's embark on a journey where mutual commitment and dedication create a deeply fulfilling BDSM-based relationship. Looking forward to hearing from you.
Anyone unable to prove they're real. Stating you can't video call because you're "shy" or a "very private person" or using any other lame excuse immediately screams "This person is either a man, a scammer or someone looking to play games." It is the biggest red flag.
People that say they're "in the lifestyle" but they're just looking for "kinky fun". Once things get real and they have to do things they don't want to do or they're prohibited from doing those things they do want to do, they just run away.
I’m not really into anything extreme like blood or scat. I also do not like permanent marks, however, even though I will probably never do anything like this, I prefer someone that doesn’t limit me.