Considerate Dom

dom male

44

In a monogamous relationship

I am here only to look around and maybe make connections for the future. I value intelligence, honesty and class. Any relationship worth entering starts with a connection outside of the bedroom. If I were to be looking for something then the whole BDSM side of things would be the side attraction. This site is just a good starting point to find someone that leans towards particular sexual preferences. I believe a satisfying sex life is the most important thing and find it sad that so many people (myself included) have let society tell us what is and isn't supposed to be acceptable for good, responsible people to enjoy.

As of writing this I am 44 years old, I am married (hence the just looking around) I have three grown "children" and one Grandchild. At this point I have basically lived my life and served my purpose of being a father and am now turning my attention back towards myself and what I want after existing to take care of others. AKA, I finally feel justified to be a little bit selfish.

I am an extremely average white male. Average height, average weight, average cock. I am definitely not a big strong bull nor am I tall dark and handsome.

One might ask why a married man would feel justified to even make a profile on here, and that is a valid question. I hope that my story might help others, especially younger men and women too ashamed to admit their desires. Otherwise I really have no expectations here, I am really just looking. It is just a little bit hot to read about women's desires that lineup with mine and I would have to assume that having conversations with those same women would also be enjoyable. Sometimes a conversation with no expectations can be a great thing. I will not message anyone, but will respond to any messages I receive.

The spark that sent me here was the realization that my wife will never be into what I desire, and that is unfortunate, though largely my fault for not being able to speak my mind and express my desires for so long. I have no doubt there are many others like me on here. Not in a horrible relationship, but tired of not being sexually satisfied and stuck with a partner that absolutely will not even attempt to bend.

I denied my own desires for so long, and am now at a point where I feel comfortable expressing them (likely due to a midlife crisis) and I have rejected what I was told Women should want and turned towards my desires with the understanding that as a man if i want to treat a woman a certain way there is a woman out there that wants to be treated that way.

If I were single or trying to enter a relationship I would be very open. I would be more than happy to explore all sorts of situations (again, if I was single). I would be willing to join a couple, I would be willing to dom a much younger woman, I would be willing to dom a woman that I have very little in common with. Those would all be short lived, loveless, just for fun and purely physical relationships though and not necessarily what I would "want" but would be willing to participate in.

My ideal relationship would be we are equals outside of the bedroom and I would be the absolute boss when the clothes come off, though I would be open to being dominant outside of the bedroom also. Communication, honesty, affection and passion would be key building blocks. I understand that even while in a dominate position as a man that the woman is still in control. I am not the kind of man that thinks women owe him submission, I understand it is earned and maintained through (at very least) trust and respect. I am into degrading and demeaning women. Completely unleashed I would absolutely slap, spit on and spank my woman. I would tie her up and have my way with her every hole. I would call her MY (emphasis added on my) slut and whore while making her gag on my cock. I would pull her hair while taking her anally in whatever position I desired., and once I had my fill I would make her cum until she begged me to stop. Afterwards there would be lots of cuddles and kisses and gentle caresses, while telling her what a good girl she is. Basically, when it came to sex I would want any future partner to eagerly want to be my own personal sex slave who would earn her pleasure by giving me mine.

Anyways, that is a whole novel I have written. If you want to talk or know more.... feel free to hit me up. That applies to all orientations. Even if you and I could never in a million years have any sort of relationship, if you ever felt like you couldn't be the person you wanted to be I would love to talk to you and help you realize that you were always meant to be who you want to be.

PS... anyone else start off here and then check into fetlife and kind of lose faith in humanity? Like... I am by no means religious but I feel like that fetlife is the modern day Sodom and Gomorrah. This site is like kinky confessions while that site is like "I have soulless sex for content" or is it just me?

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Dominant
100% Degrader
92% Rigger
91% Master/Mistress
84% Primal (Hunter)
72% Brat tamer
70% Sadist
69% Non-monogamist
68% Exhibitionist
61% Experimentalist
50% Owner
46% Voyeur
38% Vanilla
10% Daddy/Mommy
3% Degradee
0% Ageplayer
0% Brat
0% Boy/Girl
0% Masochist
0% Pet
0% Primal (Prey)
0% Rope bunny
0% Slave
0% Submissive
0% Switch

I know what I want but have never had a partner that would let me express it, so......

I hate to put anything here because limits can change depending on the person but .... extreme pain, anything that results in bleeding, infidelity, animals, illegal activities, bathroom stuff, other men involved.

Me being here

Apr 20, 2024

Apr 16, 2024