I'm not new to this site. but returning. I'm submissive, a demisexual pan, SWM seeking a Dominant-led LTR. I'm cerebral first and enjoy meeting like-minded people who are not vanilla. I consider vulnerability, trust, and honesty as the most important part of a connection between a sub/slave and Dominant. I do not use pronouns but adhere to how I feel when I am with someone and respect others who do use them. My kinks typically adapt to yours but my personality and deep-seated desire to be dominated rarely change.
I'm very drawn to intelligent and original off-the-cuff witty conversation that can range from philosophy to spiritual (esoteric, metaphysical, myth) to politics to entertainment and more.
My biggest hope in finding someone is less about physical attraction and more about the mental, but both are important. I mostly enjoy how people interact, speak, the choices they make, and if they have a kind heart behind it all. The person I seek will ideally not have kids (it's okay to have them (prefer grown), but it's just not my first choice), nor will they have a spouse or attached to another or grieving one. This is important. I'm not poly but open to involving others when we are together (in play or at events), but being romantically or emotionally tied to another when we are committed, is not acceptable for me.
As mentioned, I'm demisexual which means I need an emotional connection first. Kinks/fetishes: CNC. TPE, 24/7. Strictness. Clever bondage and restraint predicament. Impact play. CDs/Gender play. Mental play. Obedience and forced admissions. Tasking. Temporary marks. Verbal abuse. Oral. Anal. Orgasm denial/CEI. Hypno (addicting me). Rituals. Sex Magic. Encouraged-bi play. Anything that locks or zips or has spiked studs. Clever punishments and discipline. I do love a diabolical mind and foul tongue. Hoods. Heels. Gear. Lingerie. Femme. Chastity. Contracts. And more...
Lying. Stealing. Cheating. Blatant rudeness. Polygamy. Blood. Scat. Animals. Children. ABL. Being ignored/no closure. Ridicule out of play. Illegal activities. Hard drugs. Alcohol/Cannabis (me). No smoking tobacco. Unhealthy eating. Grieving when we meet. Disease. Findom. Financial extortion.
Im looking for a soulmate to relocate to, or build a life with somewhere together. They are not seeking any paid service or tribute other than my continual devotion, what Im able to voluntarily give to build the relationship stronger, and my services and abilities to entertain, make them smile, and feel good about their choice to accept me into their life, kink or commitments. I seek a primary D/s with any gender.