In a monogamous relationship
I am a 50-year-old married Canadian woman. I am passionate about the written word and learning new things. I have a sense of humour that can be dark and twisted sometimes and silly at other times. I’ve been known to come up with terrible puns on occasion. I dislike writing these “about me” things! But I will try to add a bit more here later.
I am neurodivergent and can be direct and honest. Sometimes, this offends people. If I offend you, I would appreciate you letting me know so we can discuss it. There are things I may miss or don’t realize. Note that if not being provoked, I do not intend to be harsh or make people feel bad.
I rarely share my picture. It's not relevant because I'm not here to find a dom or sub, so what I look like isn't important. I know there's the "I like to see who I'm talking to" thing, but it doesn't move me to share my picture. I understand that some people must have a picture and that's okay, they are entitled to think that way. There are plenty of others they can converse with. I think the internet is wonderful in the way that it forces people to get to know one another without the bias of appearance. It's fascinating to see people becoming friends with the most unlikely individuals because appearance is taken out of the equation, at least at first. And no, I don't think physical attraction is irrelevant, it's just not relevant for me in platonic situations.
I know I'm supposed to choose a role, but I'm not practicing any BDSM activities currently. I chose "other" because I'm not 100% sure that I have a label that I'm comfortable with. I accidentally stumbled upon BDSM in a chat room years ago, and it's actually a bit of a funny story, at least to me. If you wish to know, ask. After that accidental meeting, I began to chat more frequently in an online BDSM community. I live in a relatively small city, so no events or clubs existed. The internet opened up new worlds for people. My explorations mostly ended up in comedic experiences, or at least now I can deem them comedic. Back then, some of them were frustrating. I stepped away when one of those interactions became dangerous "in real life" (I have qualms about this phase, but that's a separate matter). I meant to return, but I met my husband, and then life happened. I haven't interacted with the BDSM community for many years, so I don't know if it's the same.
So, if you have read this far, you probably wonder what I'm doing here. I remember the community as a place where people could just be themselves and not be judged for it. That is part of why I have returned. I hope this community trait hasn't changed, though I'm well aware of other things that might have. I'm no longer a young lady exploring; now, I'm an "old lady" exploring. I am interested in picking up where I left off in terms of learning about the lifestyle and its various roles. I am not in my youth, so I will hardly have anyone, Dom or sub, knocking down my virtual door for kinky shenanigans. For all I know, there is a fetish for mature ladies like me. I'm joking about that, but it does seem like there's a kink for almost everything these days. I am not looking for any romantic partners or scene partners right now. I am open to platonic relationships. I continue to learn about myself and look forward to discovering new things about myself. I want to learn more about the BDSM lifestyle, but I recognize that being a mature, married woman does not lend itself to the "learn by doing" approach, in that it's not attractive to others. Other than learning more about myself, my other motivation for being here is that I want to ensure that when I depict BDSM in my fiction writing, it is accurate. It is my sincere hope that being a writer wanting to get BDSM right in my fiction doesn’t bother anyone. It is not the sole reason I am here.
Back in the day, I identified as a Switch because I was mostly dominant but on the rare occasion a strong male dom (a genuine one of course) could possibly give me a run from my money, so to speak. But he would have had to be one hell of a Dom. I share what I identified as back then to provide a little context. It's probably a good starting point for me on my renewed learning journey.
This is not really applicable as I will not be playing. However, I will not tolerate anything involving children or animals as they cannot consent.