AceSubDC

sub female

30

Hi there,

I’m an asexual sub. I live in DC, and I have a typical DC political job and my boss is the worst and I hate it and I just want a break and want to feel safe and protected. I want to kneel and be told I’m good and get nice massages. I’m really only looking for someone local. And preferably metro-accessible.

I’m blind and autistic. The no-sex policy is non-negotiable. I straight up cannot tolerate it. I don’t like kissing. I don’t want to be naked.

I want a safe harbor. I want someone with actual leadership and gentle confidence to be a steady, calm, and soothing rock. I need someone to help me keep track of my personal life. I put all my effort into work and then keeping up with basic shit at home is like… impossible.

I’ll be honest, I have never had a relationship with a masculine human work out. I usually consider myself only interested in women. That said, I’m open to the concept of an asexual dude. I work in an extremely male dominated industry. I am usually the only woman anywhere I go. And I’m finding myself wanting to submit to men I work with. And I feel like that needs an outlet. Because I’m looking for leadership that I feel like I can submit to and… A) not appropriate for work, B) the people I want to submit to are men, which is confusing because I usually only feel safe with women, and C) I figure it’s worth seeing what’s out there.

Thanks for reading. I don’t even know if what I’m looking for is healthy or reasonable or any of that. Honestly I’m pretty vanilla except that most vanilla women especially are strictly into a 50/50 egalitarian relationship… and I just… I want taking care of me and helping me regulate to be something that my partner wants to do for me. And I want that vulnerability to be valued and desired instead of considered a burden. And maybe that’s selfish and maybe that vulnerability isn’t desireable and it’s just my own emotional labor that I’m trying to outsource….

But that’s what I want.

Most of BDSM feels inapplicable to me because of how Apothisexual I am.

Most things? Like assume I’m not into it. I enjoy the sensory input that I like. Like in an extremely autistic way. Willing to explore non-sexual sensory. I love deep pressure. Idk. I’m gentle. I’m not into sex or anything really more than being taken care of. I’ll come up with a better answer to this later.

== Results from bdsmtest.org: ==
97% Vanilla
94% Little
79% Ageplayer
73% Submissive
43% Non-monogamist
37% Slave
19% Pet
8% Rope bunny
8% Experimentalist
4% Voyeur
0% Brat
0% Degradee
0% Masochist
0% Primal (Prey)
0% Switch
0% Exhibitionist

Feb 28, 2025