What I am looking for on this site:
I am mainly looking for community, friends, and good conversation; however I am also open to trying new things.
I am a very nonjudgmental and open-minded person who likes to be playful. I am also a very honest and clear communicator so I won't hesitate to talk to you about anything I feel I should talk about.
In the event I do decide to pursue a relationship you should know that although I am a submissive do not expect me to submit to you right off the bat. I require established trust and respect for boundaries; additionally I am a demisexual and need an emotional connection to someone before even experiencing sexual attraction to that person.
I know that there are a lot of "dominant submissive" guys who try to get their doms to play out their fetishes/interests. I am not one of those people, although I have my own fetishes/interests they are not at all mandatory. My first and foremost desire is pleasing my dominant; it is my personal preference that a submissive should mold their life and interests around the wishes/desires of their dominant not the other way around. A submissive should take what is given, not demand things.
What I am looking for in a Dominant:
Besides the things which I already mentioned there are really only two things I look for and that is decisiveness and actually being dominant. As for the former I love when someone knows what to do and won't hesitate to do it; as for the latter I have zero interest in ever being the dominant or being with someone who is a switch. With that out of the way I want to make it clear I am not looking for a professional nor do I care how experienced of a dominant you are. I think a lot of fun and genuine connection can be made through mistakes and learning together.
My BDSM values:
I value the trust and vulnerability that comes with being the submissive in a D/s relationship; trust that comes from clear communication, boundaries, structure, and the willing submission that it built on that foundation.
The slow erosion of those boundaries and the scale of power gradually tipping in favor of my dominant is something I really look forward to.