I don't take this subject that I must live it 24/7, hardcore, etc. I have always seen it as a great time roll playing, for a weekend, pushing our limits, yet not taking everything so serious.
BDSM can be fun, can be real. I'm not into pain and hurt. I prefer to use BDSM more thru the mind versus physical BDSM. Bottom line is that we have a fun, sexy, erotic time. Or at least we try too.
No piss or poop, or any of that stuff. I don't give out extreme pain, nor do I give out pain on a lower level.
I enjoy not taking things so serious, and others agree with me. I have never waited for a sub girl to show interest to come play with me, I get a lot of girls/women who want to join me.