I live in Essex, UK (near London) and I am a well-educated, professional and ambitious girl. I love wit, sarcasm, intellectual conversations and a great sense of humour. I can be playful and sweet but I am definitely not a human door mat, and can have one hell of an attitude if certain situations arise. I also love to travel to new and exciting places as much as possible, and generally get as much out of life that I can.
I am new to the BDSM community with very little experience, but what I lack in experience I make up for in attitude and enthusiasm.
I am not actively looking for a long-term D/s relationship but experience to explore my submissive nature. What I would ideally like is to meet an experienced Dom or couple (Dom Male - Domme/Sub female) to explore this side of me more. However, I am not interested in joining an existing relationship as part of any triad. I, personally, am unable to connect emotionally with more than one person at a time and am only interested in males romantically. Saying that, I do think that there has to be good chemistry, friendship and trust, with clear boundaries established.
(Although, if I did so happen to meet the PERFECT Dom for me then I wouldn’t rule out a long-term relationship, I’m just not actively seeking it)
According to my friends i am confident and sassy, but fussy when it comes to relationships. However, I do not consider myself to be “fussy” I have just been unable to find what it is that I truly desire. I have always been subservient during sexual encounters. I enjoy my partner taking the lead and have enjoyed bondage, rough play and spankings incorporated in the past. But I want more than this. I want to be able to surrender completely and give up my control to a dominant partner I trust - and feel cherished whilst doing so. This is what I crave more then anything else. Although it doesn’t necessarily mean I want a 24/7 D/s relationship. I understand that due to my lack of experience I may not appeal to many Doms out there, but for those who are willing to teach, I am willing to learn.
I am open to online D/s whilst training/learning or establishing a connection but I want something in real life so please keep in mind my location. I am in no rush to find what I’m looking for and am willing to learn as much as I can in the meantime, so feel free to message me with any tips or if you wish to discuss experiences etc.
Things that appeal to me:
bondage, impact play (flogging, spanking etc) pet-play, rough play, power exchange, orgasm control/denial, edging, anal etc
Please do not contact me if you are looking for a “discreet” relationship, I have pretty strong opinions regarding those who go behind their partners back and I will not respond.
I am also not interested in age-play, scat, urine, permanent markings, body modifications, animals or illegal activities. Other than that I’m pretty open and happy to try most things.
Updated my profile to better reflect myself