I am a spiritual person (but without religion) who is not afraid to call on that during kink or any aspect of my life. I am back on the path to healing in all aspects after a tough year last year, the only thing that didn’t change last year was my passion for kink. I am interested in people, always their minds first and I enjoy people who have passion, passion in any aspect the environment, learning, spirituality, woodwork, your art, anything. I admit that I prefer conversations with people who have their own opinions and aren’t afraid to stand by them even if we disagree but at the same time a good chat about Game of Thrones etc. is welcome too, it doesn’t always have to serious! I have a deep love for education, that chase for information and to expand your own knowledge and to never stop learning. I will not stand for any form of bigotry regardless of who or what it’s directed at and I believe in respecting people’s voices.
The bench is made by MIV furniture- great guy and amazing quality items
I am a Domme, I am a sadist, a lesbian, I am turned on creating predicaments for my person I am playing with and looking into the eyes of someone as you cause them quick and totally unnecessary pain because they are simply yours, their reaction generally causes a smile to spread across my face and is a turn on. Consensual non-consent in its original form (not just ‘rape play’) is a necessary part of me and my relationship, to build the trust in D/s that allows me to exert my will on my submissive and I constantly strive to deepen that connection. The key word of that is Consent and the centre of my kink practice is Informed Consent. One of my passions is to learn about all things kinky, to constantly continue to educate myself and know that whatever I do is done with the greatest information available even in things I have been doing for years, just because you’re good at something doesn’t mean you can’t get better. I love to share any knowledge available to me with people and I am just as open to learn from others because believe it or not all kinksters aren’t pre-loaded with the latest information! ;) This is one of the joys of this community for those that can put ego aside, which I’m glad to say is most. I also have the heart of a scientist to go along with my spirituality and the ability to experiment with sex, dominance, pain and to think of play that allows me to fulfill that be it creating a Pavlovian response or helping push the boundaries of endurance physically and/or mentally is one of the greatest parts of kink to me. Also laughter, I think it’s always important to remember- this is fun, we are allowed to simply enjoy this for what it is, we are allowed to laugh, it doesn’t all have to be deep psychological play and as part of this enjoyment I keep a little record of my “Domme Disasters’ don’t get me started about long curly hair with a propensity to eat and tangle everything and a wartenberg wheel if you’re following it with your tongue!! Still had fun after though!! ;)
Lack of communication and I will not be used for self-harm by proxy.
I am in the process of starting to experiment with making kink toys that embodies the spiritual. I have a book paddle or two to do but after that the building, experiments and testing begins- it is possible I may lose limbs to power tools though, not used some of them before!! I am also starting to write again and I may post some of them here soon.