Good day. I am re-entering the lifestyle after some time away. I am a Dom of moderate experience and have been for the past twenty-five years, off and on. I am seeking a submissive, but am not necessarily in a hurry. I'd prefer to take the time to make sure we're a match. I am very cerebral and do not enter into things lightly. In other words, there's going to be a lot of talking before we do anything IRL.
I need to find someone for whom I have respect both inside and outside the world of D/s. If you're not someone worthy of respect, your submission is meaningless. I require a whole person and not someone who defines themselves based on another. I keep D/s in the bedroom. Outside of their, I expect you to have opinions and thoughts apart from mine. I need you to be able to express yourself and be a companion and partner to me. I want an equal, someone who submits because it is what she wants and not because she feels it's her place.
I know this is long-winded, but it is important to me. I've had too many relationships where communication has been an issue and I won't make that mistake again. We will talk long and often before meeting and more so before entering into any sort of D/s.
I hope to make some friends along the way to finding my sub and partner. I welcome anyone who wants to talk. I look forward to sharing what I know with you and learning from your experiences. Many submissive expect a Dom to be a font of wisdom and infallible. I am neither of those things. I know things that I am willing to share and I will try hard to be the man my eventual sub needs. I make no promises I can not keep. And the only one I offer in advance is that I am going to be honest with you, maybe painfully so. The only thing I expect from you in advance is that same courtesy.
I am not the elaborate, pretentious Dom. I enjoy simple ropes and toys. I will not be constructing complex contraptions for BDSM purposes. Ropes and cuffs should be sufficient as they have been doing the job for millennia and no one has invented anything more efficient. I am not into mind games. If I tell you something, it will be the truth. I don't expect you to believe that right away, but I will earn that trust should the time come.
I enjoy administering rope bondage, spankings, the use of toys, blindfolds, gags, and cuffs. The simple things are usually the best. I am very tactile oriented. I like to touch and use my hand and will spend a great amount of time using them, within and outside BDSM. I am affectionate and appreciate having that affection returned. When I have found my certain someone, BDSM will not be front and center in our day to day lives, but it will be constantly in the background.
I was introduced to the concept of BDSM in my mid-teens and have been fascinated by the concept of power exchange ever since. I enjoy learning of how it affects a submissive and attempting to understand what it brings to the experience and their lives. I find it hard to express what it means to me except to say that the level of trust involved is absolutely intoxicating to a Dom. To have someone who trusts you enough to put herself, not only under your control, but completely at your mercy is a powerful experience and a gift who's value is incalculable. To be the recipient of such a thing is beyond an honor, it is a responsibility. To abuse such a trust or to use it for a quick thrill is abhorrent to me. I will strive to be worthy of that privilege and will make sure that you receive what you need in return for that gift.
I understand that some submissive desire degradation and objectification. If that is what you need, I will provide it. But, you must keep in mind that if I do, it is because it is what you need and not what I feel you deserve. This sort of relationship is very special and I an intolerant of those that would abuse it. A sub's gift is precious. It is a part of herself that is quite vulnerable and important. It should be treated as such.
All the usual, nothing illegal, nothing permanent, no going beyond your boundaries. I'm not interested much in role-play. I am interested in you. I feel that the person you are, submitting yourself to me is gift enough. If you don't feel that you're worthy of a Dom's attention based on who you are, then you're more than likely mistaken.
I've been lurking through here for several week, getting a feel for the site and the community. As I am just re-entering the lifestyle, I felt it best to get reacquainted with it before taking the plunge. I hope to hear from many of you, even if (and especially) if our viewpoints are different. I enjoy discussing such matters. It is important to continue learning and to take in everyone's outlook. Locking yourself away and focusing in one particular way of seeing things is a sure path to unhappiness. It is important to give everyone a chance to prove you wrong. If you think it's not possible, please remember that you haven't met everyone. And, those you have, you've yet to learn everything there is to know about them. We are all full of surprises.