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chichicoffeesub female
United States
chichicoffee
Age
25
Relationship status
Single
About me
Heya!
Call me Chi. :) I'm female, twenty, and writing is my passion.
I write romantic fanfiction online and have started to gain enormous popularity from it, though emotion, rather than smut is at the heart of my stories (though there's yummy smut too, lol!). I have a private life, though I have a friendly personality, and am always open to talking with someone, whether our interests align or not.
I have anxiety and some health issues that can make living a normal life difficult, though I'm fortunate when compared to others. I adore animals (non-sexually.) as well as reading, and cooking, though I have a fondness for going to the cinema.
Call me Chi. :) I'm female, twenty, and writing is my passion.
I write romantic fanfiction online and have started to gain enormous popularity from it, though emotion, rather than smut is at the heart of my stories (though there's yummy smut too, lol!). I have a private life, though I have a friendly personality, and am always open to talking with someone, whether our interests align or not.
I have anxiety and some health issues that can make living a normal life difficult, though I'm fortunate when compared to others. I adore animals (non-sexually.) as well as reading, and cooking, though I have a fondness for going to the cinema.
BDSM and me
As my ad says, I have a complicated relationship with intimacy - I've gotten to a place where I'm comfortable with being submissive (despite my passionate, headstrong nature when it comes to pursuing my goals), and I'd like to embrace a connection with someone.
For me, the D/S dynamic is attractive on more than a sexual level. Having someone who can coax me out of my shell, and take the rein in things is something I find enormously attractive, as well as freeing. I have anxiety and would like someone who would be willing to work with me; voice chatting, opening up, following a schedule, etc. I'm open to following tasks, and things like that; something where submissiveness is more than overtly sexual. Giving up control to a confident partner, someone who I find attractive, and likes me in turn is irresistible.
In regards to being submissive: I used to have an attraction to cruel, sadistic dominants - the kind popularized by Fifty Shades of Grey, or/and Twilight. I require more of an emotional connection, as well as an intellectual one before anything. I can slip into subspace easily, and was very damaged by my past experiences, and can sometimes seem like a compassionate, but emotionally distant person because of it in my relationships. I still have an attraction to sadists, however, I find the relationships toxic (for me). Finding my 'role', something that can excite me sexually, but stay with me emotionally would be something I'd grateful to have help with - I had a strong interest in 'middles' but I'm not sure it's a match!
For me, the D/S dynamic is attractive on more than a sexual level. Having someone who can coax me out of my shell, and take the rein in things is something I find enormously attractive, as well as freeing. I have anxiety and would like someone who would be willing to work with me; voice chatting, opening up, following a schedule, etc. I'm open to following tasks, and things like that; something where submissiveness is more than overtly sexual. Giving up control to a confident partner, someone who I find attractive, and likes me in turn is irresistible.
In regards to being submissive: I used to have an attraction to cruel, sadistic dominants - the kind popularized by Fifty Shades of Grey, or/and Twilight. I require more of an emotional connection, as well as an intellectual one before anything. I can slip into subspace easily, and was very damaged by my past experiences, and can sometimes seem like a compassionate, but emotionally distant person because of it in my relationships. I still have an attraction to sadists, however, I find the relationships toxic (for me). Finding my 'role', something that can excite me sexually, but stay with me emotionally would be something I'd grateful to have help with - I had a strong interest in 'middles' but I'm not sure it's a match!
Limits
Please do *NOT* contact me if you are: looking for an immediate sexual relationship (pictures, videos, meetup, etc.), are in a relationship of *any* kind or share your partners (whether online or offline), smoke, or have children. I'm interested in getting to know someone, on a platonic level, as well as seeing if we have chemistry before diving deep into this - I think trust is vital in d/s relationships, as well as knowing who the other person is. I'm a friendly, honest person, and looking for the same in turn. :)
I am a monogamous person - I remember this being an issue when I was on the Cage before. I am not interested in anyone who is married or dating (online or offline), has a mistress/master/slave/pet/etc, or is very open sexually (in a public way - such as someone who has self-explicit videos of themselves on their profile/s) it's simply not for me.
I also *do* believe that physical attraction is important. If we aren't attracted to each other's looks, I don't believe there's anything wrong with that. I'm not attracted to overweight/stout males, ones who aren't well-groomed, or if you look, well...creepy. I don't mind location (whether you're in the states or international - I'm used to LDRs!), ethnicity, or an age difference - I've always gravitated toward older men, though someone with children is a hard limit for me.
I've had people message me over and over, and was forced to change my number before because of this - if we aren't a match for each other, it's okay. There's truly someone for everyone, you and me included. :)
I am a monogamous person - I remember this being an issue when I was on the Cage before. I am not interested in anyone who is married or dating (online or offline), has a mistress/master/slave/pet/etc, or is very open sexually (in a public way - such as someone who has self-explicit videos of themselves on their profile/s) it's simply not for me.
I also *do* believe that physical attraction is important. If we aren't attracted to each other's looks, I don't believe there's anything wrong with that. I'm not attracted to overweight/stout males, ones who aren't well-groomed, or if you look, well...creepy. I don't mind location (whether you're in the states or international - I'm used to LDRs!), ethnicity, or an age difference - I've always gravitated toward older men, though someone with children is a hard limit for me.
I've had people message me over and over, and was forced to change my number before because of this - if we aren't a match for each other, it's okay. There's truly someone for everyone, you and me included. :)
What's new
Just rejoined the Cage, after several months of inactivity, and sorting things out! I'm hoping to find an understanding dom, someone who can help me find my place, and share a connection with. :) Happy to chat with anyone (submissive/switch/dominant), just, please don't send me something creepy.
Update date
Oct 29, 2019
Member since
Mar 28, 2019