BigNNerdydom male
BigNNerdy
if I’ve loved your profile, I’m interested in getting to know you, but don’t specifically know how to approach you. Everyone is different. Some like to be smacked around verbally while others just want to be approached as a normal person. I think I get it wrong more often than not. I’m great at reading people in real life, but without that interaction I’m a bit blind. XD
I'm actually a very kind and loving person with an easygoing personality, but I have dark desires that need to be realized through a D/s relationship. I value the emotional connection between two people, and I am not in this simply for hedonistic pleasure (though that’s a definite bonus).
I am absolutely not interested in men. Getting enough messages from guys that I feel I need to spell it out in plain English. ;P
If I message you, please have the courtesy to respond. I understand you might be getting lots of messages and sometimes things get lost and people get distracted. I’ll usually follow-up after a while if I don’t hear back from you. The only thing worse than being rejected is being ignored. :P I take rejection in stride. You owe me nothing and I have zero expectations if I message you. But not responding and then blocking me is just simply poor form on your part and shows a severe lack of ability to deal with problems. It doesn’t upset me. It doesn’t affect me at all other than prove to me that you’re not worthy of being in my life. If you lack the basic courtesy of responding to someone who is showing interest in you, I pity whatever Dom ends up having to deal with you. ;D Otherwise I wish everyone nothing than the best, and hope you find joy in everything you do!
I am not for everyone. I’m prickly and my sense of humor sometimes comes across as mean (very sarcastic and dry). But I crave closeness with other people and am ultimately very lonely. Straight talk. I have not had luck with romance in my life, and I am hoping I’m able to find someone within this sphere of interest who can put up with me, because vanilla women obviously can’t. XD I thank every person here who has taken the time to respond to me, even if it was just to reject me. I hope you find what you’re looking for!
First off, I want to state that I absolutely understand that it takes time to earn the right to call someone a sub, and the activities I speak of here are only once that level has been reached and everyone agrees to the terms. This process takes time and there is always going to be a level of “Is this person really who they say they are?” Stay safe, all of you.
I’m looking for a live-in sub who takes on a very submissive role in the house, but is able to maintain a “vanilla” personality while in public, especially if I don’t. :P I have a wide range of interests and styles, and the needs of the sub are something I take very seriously. Obviously I have my own desires, but I can’t fulfill those if I have to force them on a sub who isn’t into that particular thing. Therefore I tend to be more malleable and am willing to fit my desires into those of my sub. Some subs want boundaries to be taken away, to be forced to do things they’re uncomfortable with. This is also a part of what I’m talking about. The needs of the sub are my needs, and I seek to fulfill those needs and if my desires can be met along the way, that’s a bonus!
What I am ultimately looking for, BDSM dynamic notwithstanding, is a domestic partner who takes care of the home. I make enough money to support myself (despite my terrible eating habits... eating out a lot is very expensive!) and could support another person as long as they’re able to cover their own minor living expenses (cooking for both of us rather than me eating out for every meal would go a LONG way for that). Getting a part time job would be a huge boost to household income. I reward good behavior with lots of love, both physical and emotional, cuddling, words of encouragement, etc. Bratty behavior is met with increasing sternness and may result in restraint or rougher physical treatment. You behave how you want to be treated! (If a different dynamic is desired, we can discuss it beforehand but this will be the default) Otherwise I expect obedient behavior, and consent in my household is implied.
Physically speaking... Petite is best, but I’m attracted to many body types (But the larger your build the less attracted I’m liable to be) so if you’re not a stick-girl, don’t worry about it. Shorter is better (I’m 5’10”). Hair/eye color doesn’t really matter to me. I don’t smoke, I expect you to also not smoke. I don’t have tattoos either, and I expect the same of my sub. I also have no children. I do want children, but I want to make them myself. :P
Personality-wise, I like willfull, playful, slightly bratty types. I also like demure, reserved, shy, agreeable types. Not a huge fan of diva behavior, meanness, haughtiness, arrogance, or holier-than-thou types.
I’m not in to the sports, and as a nerdy dude I am in to video games and the like. You’d best be nerd-tolerant. ;P That isn’t to say we’ll be indoors all the time. I love doing things outside, and I definitely want to hike out to a remote location with you and do some nude sex-camping over a weekend.
Not opposed to casual play, either. If that’s something you’re looking for and you feel I can do that for you, let me know and we’ll see what we can come up with!
A lot of people ask me what being a Dom means to me. To me, a Dom is more than just barking orders and being demanding. As a Dom, I see myself as the tour guide to an adventure of pleasure. The sub often has a destination in mind and it’s my job to get her there. My pleasure as a Dom is to bring pleasure to my sub, and to ensure my sub feels safe before, during, and after every encounter, especially the rougher sessions. Being demanding and giving orders is only one aspect of being a Dom, and it’s not even the most important. In my opinion the most important trait a Dom can have is the ability to understand a sub and her desires, and a REALLY good Dom is able to determine this before the sub is even aware of it. To be a Dom is to be a Guardian, a Guide, and yes, in some ways even a servant.
== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
93% Master/Mistress
83% Dominant
74% Daddy/Mommy
74% Voyeur
62% Primal (Hunter)
59% Degrader
59% Brat tamer
53% Experimentalist
53% Owner
46% Ageplayer
43% Rigger
40% Exhibitionist
40% Sadist
38% Non-monogamist
37% Vanilla
http://bdsmtest.org/r/cTmZgpSF
TL;DR - First and foremost I’m looking for a connection with a (submissive/kinky) woman for a relationship/companionship. Ideally a sub with servant/slave tendencies, but this isn’t a requirement!
Trying to narrow down exactly what kinds of fetishes I have, so if I list something here that you’re into, feel free to chat me up. These are my biggest ones:
- Corruption (turning an innocent or shy girl into a total slut, at least at home. Love the idea that only I know about her “true self”)
- Enslavement (do whatever I say, when I say it)
- Harem (Multiple subs, one switch “primary” who Dommes the others but subs to me)(side note: this is optional and only if we both agree it’s something we want to do!)
- Implied Consent (Subs don’t get to say no to my sexual advances, goes hand in hand with enslavement but could stand on its own)
- Free Use
- Brat Taming (I enjoy a bit of sass)
- Pointless clothing/Functional nudity
- Nudity as a sexual vehicle, rather than a naturalist one
- Physical dominance (I wanna throw you around a little, not in a true abusive way though, it’s one the the reasons I prefer petite girls)
Minor fetishes:
- DD/lg
- Restraint
- Public activity (covert, make her squirm)
- Humiliation
- Breeding
I have a heart condition now. It came on suddenly and is not a result of unhealthy eating or lack of exercise. In fact I’m told my cardiovascular system is immaculate, aside from my heart not pumping as much blood as it’s supposed to. I now actually NEED someone who can take care of house chores because I pretty much can’t. -_- This has not affected my libido. Lol
Recovering from heart issues. Heart functionality is about 85% of normal and I can be at least a little active again. Doctors still have no idea what caused it. I’ll probably never know.
Living in Manchester NH. Working in Lebanon NH.