To me d/s is about helping sub be who she is, helping her he comfortable with her self, explore and guide her. It's mental and emotional connection between the two. Any man can grab a woman by her hair, throw her on the bed, and rip her clothing off. Sure he can tie her up, call her a ‘b*tch’ or a ‘slut’ and have rough sex with her. But that is not dominance … that’s rough sex, maybe even violent sex. If she’s into it, it can even be fun but that’s still not true dominance. True dominance is the ability to whisper softly in her ear then observe as she obediently removes her clothing. Methodically … one piece at a time. Watching as she kneels before you offering her entire self to you. Willingly, without hesitation or reservation. She will show you her true self without embarrassment or shame. You will know that nothing makes her happier than making you happy …
In some ways i been in it most of my adult life. It's been 5yrs since i found out it had a name.