Dutchgirl

sub female

Single

Dutch born, grew up in a Latin country and spent my entire adult life in the US. Independent but submissive. It’s complicated. I’m creative, adventurous and a sapiosexual. I love an intelligent man who’s communicative, able to negotiate so we each get what we want with compromise, limits and realistic expectations, to understand rules of consent, to be responsible, kind, worthy of submission, respectful, alpha, fun, adventurous and fit, and takes the time to earn my trust. No games.

I realized in 2017 that I have had a submissive side all my life while being fiercely independent. It takes a lot of trust and respect for me to submit. But I am
giving and enjoy serving, being of service in different ways. I love the surrender, to push my limits, and if my Dom helps me be a better person, it aids trust, it helps me let go of control and be free. I need to know he’s got my back. I don’t do casual play.

-Dishonesty
-Humiliation (unless I’ve reached that trust level)
-Betrayal of trust
-Being unworthy of respect 
-& a few others ;)

Just coming out of a relationship so I’m not looking for a Dom right now. Healing. Looking for friendship.
Addendum: When I say I’m not interested in a relationship and I just want to be friends, it does not mean “take it slow”. It means I’m not interested in ANYTHING beyond friendship. I’m not submitting to anyone right now, I don’t consent for anyone to tell me what to do, & it certainly doesn’t mean I take assignments unless you’re a paying client for my graphic design services.

Jan 26, 2020

Oct 9, 2019