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Chico, California, United States
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Looking for local Domme in Butte/Tehama California area.
About me: HI! I’m 34, married, and a switch. My wife and I live in a 24/7 DD/lg, have been into BDSM together for about 15 years now, and have been part of our local community for the last 2 years. We have a few play partners that we see periodically. I work in IT within the healthcare industry, enjoy music, gaming, reading, cars, building things with my hands, and exploring the outdoors. I’m 5 foot 9, and about 180lbs. What I’m looking for: A long term D/s relationship with someone local. I have tried online/long distance multiple times, and I’ve learned that I can’t go without being physical with someone. I understand that everyone has other things going on, and life can get in the way at times, but I know that a relationship, for me at least, will not last without being about to be around the other person. I also know that I’m not interested in a just play relationship. Ideally, we would get to know each other well, and spend time together outside of just play sessions. I would be looking to be submissive to you at least most of the time. Again, I understand life happens, and being in a 24/7 D/s relationship already, this would need some work and discussion to sort through. The short term D/s relationships I have tried have not been difficult to manage as far as expectations and what can and can’t be done. While I am not straight, and can find interest and attraction in just about every gender, I think at this point I would prefer a Domme, as I tend to be more attracted to the female form. Interests: Some things I have tried, and enjoy, include: Tease and denial, orgasm control, chastity, tasks (sexual and non-sexual), toys, bondage, light CBT, forced feminization, bathroom control, fluid play, pegging, foot/body worship, humiliation, sounding, e-stim. Some things I have interest in, but have not tried: Diet control, latex, assigned exercise schedules, pet play, cuckolding. Limits: Scat, anything illegal, obvious public play, financial domination.
Relationship status
In a polyamorous relationship
About me
I’m 34, married (poly) and a switch. My wife and I live a twenty four by seven D/s dynamic, primarily with her as my Princess, and me as her Daddy. We’ve been exploring BDSM/Kink privately for over 15 years, and have joined our local community a couple years ago hoping to meet new people and be able to experience the ever growing list of kinks that we haven’t jumped into on our own.

I also have a fairly new relationship with a Domme that is quickly becoming pretty serious.

My orientation would say Demisexual, but I don’t know if that’s 100% accurate either. I find myself more attracted to the person as a whole (their personality, sense of humor, interests, what they’re passionate about), and less about what gender they are.

In the vanilla world:
I have a lot of interests and passions. I’m an avid gamer, and very into anything related to computers. I’m also very into music, with a pretty wide range of genres that I enjoy and listen to regularly. I’m very capable of geeking out over cars as well, and have been for as long as I can remember. I enjoy looking at art in pretty much any form, and in a perfect world, would never find enough downtime to spend reading. I enjoy seeing new places and am almost overly enthusiastic about food, especially if it’s something I haven’t tried before. I love just about all types of animals, and will often have to fight the urge to pet any and every dog I see. While I consider myself an introvert, I have a pretty large friend group, and am always looking to meet new people.
BDSM and me
From the kink side of things:
I thought, for a long time, that I was a Dom, but have recently learned that I have some pretty serious submissive tendencies as well.

As a Dom:
I enjoy playing with people who know what they want, and I enjoy service topping quite a bit. I would consider myself decent as an impact top, and enjoy the sound of a paddle/flogger/crop hitting skin, and watching the colors spread across a bottom/submissive. I like pushing boundaries when I can, and also enjoy some aspects of a CG role. I like spoiling my subs/bottoms and enjoy making sure they are content as possible, inside the bedroom and out. I get most of what I need from this side of things through my wife and the few regular play partners we have.

As a submissive:
I enjoy focusing a lot on tasks/service, and in giving up control of just about anything that the person topping me at the time enjoys having control of. I enjoy many aspects of chastity, bondage, having clothing options chosen for me, bathroom control, tease and denial, post orgasm torture/play, some light impact/pain play, body worship, cum play, anal play/training and water sports. Once in the right mindset, I can be put into a pretty decent sub space with some humiliation play as well. I get a lot out of focusing my time and energy into making the Dom/Domme/Top I’m with at the time feel good, while ignoring my own needs (sexually).

I’ve recently become interested in hypno play, little play and pet play. I haven’t had much, if any, experience with these, but hearing about some of it through podcasts and reading about it has piqued my interest.

Currently looking for:
Friends. Always like meeting new people, especially those interested in kink/BDSM.
A Domme. While I get most of what I need for my dominant side through my marriage, I’m hoping to find another woman to submit to. I would potentially be interested in a man as well, but I tend to me more physically attracted to the female form. If you're local, female or trans with feminine features, and looking for a submissive, then I would like to hear from you.
Blood, scat, permanent body mod, anything illegal.
Update date
Aug 4, 2022
Member since
Dec 16, 2019
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