Sandulf

Male

52

In a monogamous relationship

I like control. Sometimes it’s aggressive, powerful, and primal. Other times it’s very slow, deliberate and sensual. Yet other at other times it might even be a game of cat and mouse; me, teasing a submissive woman, holding her orgasm at a finger’s length away until she feels like she will explode. To me the interplay between a dominate and a submissive is a give and taking, both taking and giving to each other in a symbiotic way that fills that elusive piece of sexuality that we might not get from everyday regular life.

 

I’m limited in what I can do. I unfortunately found BDSM late in life, after I married, after I formed a family. Nothing I can leave or walk away from, or intend to.

 

I have had to live with fulfilling my interests in other ways. Erotic writing and interacting online; online, and sometimes voice, is all I can offer at this moment. There are people who I just can’t hurt. So, I take the small loves and pleasures and make them enough and that is all I have to offer.  It’s possible that I might meet up with someone, but I don’t think that is likely.  For me the best partner is a woman who comes from a similar situation and understands that ideal.

 

I’m also very approachable I believe. I believe in honesty, caring, understanding, nurturing, but living by the rules or agreements that are set down. That is what trust is based off, and trust takes time to earn. So, no I won’t ask for details, or pictures unless we agree to them. Let’s see if trust gets us there. I always have a task, clothing, or command to be done regularly to remind a submissive, of mine, of me.   I expect a submissive to keep a daily journal, and for us to work to set tasks for self-improvement.   I don’t believe in using a women’s submission for sexual gratification only.  It can be used for self-improvement as well.  To set goals and tasks that will improve your life, and become the person you want to be.  From organization, to better health, and to learn.   You get out what you put in, what do you want to be?   I expect to improve myself daily, and I expect a submissive to want to do the same.  A journey is about the trip, not just the destination or beginning.

 

I’m 50, so I'm not a young man.   I weigh in at 215 lbs. (98kg.) I run regularly, lift weights, and eat healthy (most of the time).  I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, and I don’t do drugs.   I believe strongly in taking care of myself, and plan on being physically active until the end.  I don’t believe that age determines physical fitness, that’s only one part.   I’m a strong guy, with a deep gravelly voice. I live in the greater Boston area. Not that most of this matters, but I find people like to know.

I can offer only online. I won’t “collar” anyone until we have interacted for enough time. I offer rules, tasks, and control.

 

While I have a fascination with restraint, what I really do enjoy is control, giving commands then having them done.

 

Orgasm control, forced orgasms, and humiliation is among my favorite topics.  I love leashes, collars, and rope.   There is something about that sexual desperation that always fascinates me.  

 

I’ve developed an interest in rigging but that will be difficult to pursue.

 

99% Dominant 98% Master 97% Rigger 96% Daddy 93% Owner 92% Degrader 72% Experimentalist 70% Exhibitionist 67% Voyeur 64% Primal (Hunter).

No blood, No Scat. And I have little interest in yellow games.

At this time it’s really unlikely I will take on a submissive.   Its not that I am not interested, I’m just to busy between family, work, and other community obligations as well as my own goals.    I’m not saying I won’t, but I don’t believe I will.   If a submissive is interested in working with me, ask.  I prefer folks who are direct and ask for what they want.  A submissive should expect daily tasks, some clothing requirements (a reminder of her agreement), and goal setting.  Messaging will make up most of our interactions due to time. If your just interested in getting off, just say so, but I’m not likely the Dom for you.  

 

If you want something, say so, please.   Text is so easy to misunderstand.  Be direct, it makes communication so much easier.  And use "Sir" I like the honorific, but it's certainly not something I require from any submissive that is not mine.

 

Also if your new, I always have time.   Might just be a message, but please don’t be shy, say hi, and I’ll try and help out. 

Oct 26, 2022

Feb 6, 2020