B L O N D I E

sub female

55

Single

Update: I am American, originally from California. I've been in NZ for seventeen years. I am open to relocation back to the States for the right dynamic.

Yes, I am looking for a Master/Daddy/Primal Beast. I am a cis-het monogamous submissive female in search of a cis-het monogamous dominant man. Nothing in between. If you want me to be all-in with you, you must be all-in with me.

I celebrate the masculine. I lust after and worship the male body and masculine power. I seek a man who is powerful in his masculinity and who embraces his masculine primal beast nature alongside his caring, empathetic, professional Dominant side.

I identify as a slave with a heavy service orientation and a deep need to please. I find it very easy to get into deep sub space with little to no prompting. Once I give myself to Master, I stay in sub space constantly and I use mental rituals to reinforce it so I stay there. I crave total surrender to Master's control and sole direction. I bow to only one man so I'm completely monogamous and loyal.

2)     You must take care of yourself both physically and mentally. If you don’t value yourself, you won’t be able to value anyone else nor will they be able to value you. If you don’t take responsibility for yourself and your future, you won’t be able to take responsibility for anyone else. If you aren’t taking active, deliberate steps to be happy, healthy, and in good shape for many years to come, then you’re taking active deliberate steps NOT to be happy, healthy, and in good shape for many years to come.

I have a strict health routine, so if you plan to take responsibility for me, you’ll need to support that instead of sabotaging it and influencing me to cheat. Ideally, I’d like to find someone I can work out with.

3)     I am a multi-orgasmic woman with an unlimited sex drive so I need someone who can keep up with me. I can have continuous orgasms for hours. I can orgasm from nipple stimulation. I can orgasm from impact, sensation play, being breathed on, self-suggestion, and remote command.  I can orgasm from giving oral worship to a man. I can orgasm even from thinking about my dominant. If you’re a one-hit wonder, please don’t contact me. I am highly responsive, sensual, and extremely receptive to my dominant’s influence. 
 
4)     I am a single mother, a successful entrepreneur, and I’m proud of it. I love my job and I make a very good living at it. I run my own business and I am planning to expand my business this year. I take great pride in handling my own life and I’m not looking for anyone to handle it for me. I have a busy schedule with many commitments, priorities, and obligations, so you will need to be accepting and supportive of that, too.

There are two accessories that money can’t buy: a fit, healthy body and a successful business. These two things cannot be bought for any amount of money. They can only be earned through hard work, commitment, and an unshakable foundation of self-worth. These are the qualities that I look for in a dominant. These are the two accessories that I look for as evidence that you embody these qualities.

5)     Who I Am: My interests are eclectic in every department with a mixture of indoor-outdoor, active-inactive, high-brow & low-brow activities. I’m adaptable to pretty much everything given the circumstances.

The foundation principle of my life is antifragility. I have an exceptional interest in self-reliance, independence, adaptability, self and situational awareness, survival preparedness, and sustainability across the board. I am committed to life-long growth, learning, experimentation, and gaining strength mentally and physically. I’m high-energy, curious, passionate about life, fully engaged, positive, resilient, and powerful in myself.

I’m interested in memory olympics, language learning, history and current events, music both listening to and making it, arts and crafts—anything that keeps my mind active and growing. I strongly live by the principle of neuroplasticity. We have a misconception in our society that we lose strength, range of motion, mental function, and adaptability as we age, but none of this is true. We just stop using our faculties, so they atrophy and disappear from lack of use.

The same goes for my sexuality. I have a high sex drive and I plan to become more sexual as I age rather than less so. I need a partner who wants to do that together—all of it.

I’m university educated, adventurous, easy-going, fun, insightful, courageous, empathetic, professional, and very, very loving. My Chinese Zodiac sign is the dog and this is the perfect metaphor for my personality. I’m intelligent, incredibly affectionate, absolutely loyal, energetic, protective, and I bond easily with those that treat me well. For those that don’t treat me well, I can be ruthless in cutting negative people out of my life and I don’t forgive easily. I trust my gut and I don’t waver once I make up my mind about something.

I have a curious and active mind, extensive knowledge on many subjects, I'm articulate, and I’m an excellent conversationalist. I love outdoor activities, travel, and I have many other interests. I'm strong, flexible, adaptable, and enthusiastic in everything I do. I have a high pain tolerance for Master's sadistic pleasures and the physical endurance to undertake pretty much any activity.

I’m also an introvert and a solo creative entrepreneur. My ideal work environment is a closet, so I’m extremely disciplined and highly organized with my work. I’m extremely disciplined and highly organized with everything, so I thrive on an open-ended dominance style rather than having every detail of my life micro-managed by someone else.

I am not a brat. I will never provoke you or knowingly break any rule. I live to serve and to please and I’m very trainable. I’m a good girl who needs no correction beyond a word or a look. Just knowing I’ve displeased or disappointed my dominant is punishment enough. I treat my dominant like a king and I genuinely worship everything about him—once he earns that place in my heart. I’m here to remove problems from your life rather than add new ones to it. I don’t give my submission easily, but when I do, I give it completely. 

6)     I have six years of professional culinary training, so I have a strong sense of international flavors. I'm very health conscious and I take very good care of both my body and Master's body. I love cooking for Master and taking responsibility of the kitchen to ensure his nutritional needs are met to the highest standard. I do manicure/pedicure, full-body therapeutic massage, hair-cutting, etc. I also take it as my personal responsibility to ensure that Master's environment is orderly, aesthetically pleasing, and to his preference and standard. I take pride in doing everything with excellence and maximum effort.

I have excellent communication skills and I employ a policy of total transparency and honesty with Master at all times. If there is the smallest chance that Master might possibly say in six months or five years, "Why didn't you tell me this before?" then I will tell Master now, even if it seems insignificant at the moment.

7)     What I’m looking for in a dominant: Apart from the above, I’m looking for someone who inspires me to be the best version of myself. I’m tired of being the hardest-working, most organized, most motivated person in the room, which I always am. I want someone who doesn’t just set the goalposts but actually embodies them. I am successful in every area of my life, but I can always become more successful. I want someone who is just as interested in hitching his wagon to my star as I am in hitching my wagon to his star.

Health is critical so I’m drug and disease free as you should be, too. I’m not perfect, but I spend every day trying to better myself. There is no magical line that separates your mind from the rest of your body so this applies to mental health as well. What you look like on the outside is a reflection of what you look like on the inside. Don’t believe me? Look in the mirror.

8)     I don’t wear makeup—ever. I have never worn makeup in my life and I’m not about to start. If what I look like isn’t good enough, find someone else. I practice radical authenticity. I have no interest, desire, or motivation to be someone else and you shouldn’t want me to be. You will never get anything but 100% unadulterated me. If that isn’t what you want, we should both be looking for someone else.

Apart from the standard toilet, blood, and underage limits, I have three hard limits.

First, I don’t take any kind of impact to the face or head. Everywhere else is fair game.

Second, I don’t take any kind of suffocation or asphyxiation or constriction around my neck. I love being collared and leashed and I love Beast’s hand around my throat as long as doesn’t cut off my air or blood supply. I’m open to other kinds of breath play such as pinching the nose and covering the mouth as long as it doesn’t rise to actual asphyxiation.

Lastly, never, ever raise your voice to me. If you’re raising your voice, you’re doing something wrong. Raising your voice will get you blocked, banned, shunned, and dumped with no warning and no explanation. Raising your voice is the opposite of dominance and will not be tolerated.

Red flags I look for: These tell me you aren’t ready to be in a relationship with anyone:

Being addicted to anything, sudden outbreaks of rage or loss of temper, deceit of any kind, being financially insolvent, lack of impulse control regarding finances, lack of financially responsible behavior such as budgeting, toxic relationships with family/friends, lack of boundaries, lack of basic concepts of health and nutrition, lack of basic adulting abilities such as keeping commitments, time management, life skills, etc.

I’m not looking for perfection and I don’t have any minimum requirement for your annual income. I do expect you to be able to handle the normal responsibilities of adult life. I work very hard to meet my obligations and pay my own way. I won’t get involved with anyone who can’t or won’t do the same. If you can’t do that, then you really aren’t in any condition to get into a relationship at all.

Update: 
Apparently this needs to be said because I'm discovering that the dominants in the room don't know this. Dominance is not about getting your every whim serviced nor is it about keeping your submissive such that they don't want for anything apart from you. That is not in your submissive's best interest. True dominance means taking a leadership role in your submissive's life to help them realize their full potential. If you want to be my dominant, you would need to assume this role over every aspect of my life including my career.

I am an artist with a successful career. I have spent many years building this success at great personal sacrifice and effort. A dominant who wishes to lead me to my fullest potential would not ask me to give that up to serve his whims 24/7 or to become his personal assistant. That would be equivalent to buying a high-performing race horse, hitching it to a wagon, and getting it to pull heavy loads through the street. You would get much better results by guiding this high-performer to achieve greater things within my own field and leading me to the fullest development of my given talents. My service is a consequence of you taking this leadership role, not the other way around.

I can guarantee that my work will never interfere with Master's service. I make my own schedule, so I can arrange it around your requirements and be available anytime I'm needed.

PS: I don't respond to messages of less than a paragraph. Consider this profile my first letter to you. Please respond in kind.

Apr 7, 2020