I am a lucky man married to DarlingNikki. I am a nerd with dad jokes and loves games. I enjoy using my hands to make things: projects, art, orgasms you name it. I am a professional that has a hard time letting go of standard propriety. I'm a cautious adventurer. In other words I like pushing boundaries but won't jump into it.
When I think of BDSM I think of sex and sexuality. I know there is so much more to it. I (and we[Darling Nikki]) are fairly new to exploring our kinks. Sex is a major driving force in my life. I spend a considerable amount of time thinking about it.
My wife introduced this community to me. I have been enjoying it and want her and I to grow together. We have naturally had a d/s relationship but are just now opening up, sharing and defining it. I like being dominant with her. I love when she submits and puts her faith and trust in me. I crave it. I enjoy sharing and showing her off. She loves the extra attention. We enjoy the connections we are making and being allowed to be open about our sexuality is relieving.
Our goal is to find people we trust and have a longer lasting relationship with a select few. At this point we are not interested in sex with strangers and moving on. So if that's you don't bother. Maybe someday, but don't count in it.
My boundaries are mostly fluid as long as it is consensual. Absolute no-gos are: minors, forced (non-consensual), extreme pain or mutilation,
permanent markings, water/potty games and for the most part degradation.
Just looking to explore to grow with my wife and learn to let go of my inhibitions about what a proper relationship should be. Where I grew up everyone knew you or a relative and sexuality was defined to a singularity. At least that was my perception, I'm sure there were "closet freaks". I consider myself one.
DarlingNikki and I are fairly new. We have found we enjoy playtime with those we trust and are creeped out and not interested in those not willing to develop a connection. I'll give you a hint, a connection for us isn't created overnight or with a few emails. We communicate a lot. We are each other's priority. So don't get in our way. We will drop you and you won't get an reason. You aren't entitled to an explanation.
We are looking forward to getting to know friendly people and building relationships.