sweater

sub female

27

Single

Loss is hard and its especially hard the first time, grief is weird it is like trying to find your footing on top of a wave. You never really get it, but you keep trying some days are worth the fight others the choice to drown seems like the right one.

September 17, 2020

 “Rumors has it about 90 percent of people did in fact not read my ENTIRE profile”

“The truly intelligent person is one who can pretend to be a fool, in front of a fool who pretends to be intelligent. “

Intelligence is attractive.  With that being said, know the difference between know and now. Too, two and to. Your and you’re.

 

Hello,

My name at the moment is Sweater it’s a nickname yes and upon getting to know each other more ill tell you how it came to be I think it’s pretty funny. I’m 24-years-old and currently in college pursing my MBA in international legal studies. I enjoy outings, reading love reading, writing, traveling, photography, and poetry.

 I started my path into the world that is BDSM on May 5th 2020 after stumbling upon a book series called The Submissive Series by Tara Sue Me. Doing nothing but research, reading articles, books, etc. Joining during a global pandemic was a plus because I was able to do research and go to training classes from the comfort of my bed being someone who is highly introverted that did wonders for me. I am like a sponge with knowledge and I love being able to learn. One article led to another one, one search led something else. Eventually I ended up on the cage. My favorite part of it was the fact that I could post blogs I love to write so it provided a great way to get my thoughts out and get feedback from experienced people.

Five months down the line and I have been through more than I could have ever imagined I am grateful for the knowledge gained through the experienced that I had.

 

About me


Introvert - a shy, reticent person.

Reticent - not revealing one's thoughts or feelings readily.

Shy - being reserved or having or showing nervousness or timidity in the company of other people.

* Get to know me as a person before thinking I’ll be your submissive to me that’s just backwards or you’re just looking for sex either way I’m not interested. Let’s see if we are compatible as people before we see if we are compatible sexually thank you!*

If I like your profile it means I’d love to message and talk with you but sending the first message is Paralyzing Because I know I have a few less than desirable traits being inexperienced.


I have been to 14 out of the 50 states and Vancouver, traveling and capturing beautiful scenery feeds my soul. I am very shy I’m the embodiment of the word shy.


Physical attributes as attraction is important. To me however it will never be the end all be all as looks change and fade but a person core being is what will remain the same, I also will not be called anyone’s preference or told that I’m not there preference I am a human being not the window seat on a plane.  

- I’m African American

 - I’m 5’8

- I go between 170-195 (I’m working on staying fit I eat clean but with school sometimes it’s hard to fit in working out.) Do no tell me in order to do this I need to lose weight because 1. You have no idea how triggering that can be 2. It is rude just say you are not interested and go.

- I have brown eyes they are grey most the time because of my prescribed contacts

- My natural hair is black but it’s pink all the time

 - I think that about covers the physical if you are still interested after a few conversations I do not mind sending a picture



I love getting dressed up and wearing heals, dresses, curling my hair etc so I would like someone who could match that energy also being 6ft plus is a plus not needed but I am 5’8 and I love wearing heels I own one pair of flats and one pair of sneakers so do what you will with that information 


Things I enjoy in my free time/ a little about me!
Reading
Listening to waves either at the ocean or the app on my phone
Board games
Arcades
Traveling
Photography ( behind the camera not in front of it)
Theatre ( depending on the play)
Favorite Disney movie - beauty and the beast ask me why I’ll write you a whole essay
Favorite color pink
Marvel over DC Batman isn’t an actual superhero neither is iron man
Love playing uno

Words I live by “It’s easy to be mean but it takes patience’s to be kind”


I know very little about BDSM besides what I’ve read online and some events I have attended. I enjoy reading kink/BDSM books and a friend of mine suggest I try the real thing, but I had no idea where or how to start and through research I ended up on the cage.

I only know for sure I’m submissive. I have little sexual experience and I only put that because I am over having to talk about it. The opportunity just never presented itself. My ideal person would be patience I’m shy and soft spoken and it would be much easier to figure this out if I wasn’t force into things I didn’t want to do or made to feel bad because I didn’t want to do it.


I feel I best Identify as a submissive with little tendencies in a high protocol M/s power exchange dynamic. What drew me in about BDSM wasn’t the kink yes it’s interesting and of course I want to experience it but what got my attention was the power exchange the control the sub gives up and the freedom and peace that it comes with knowing the Dom will protect her, care for her mentally, emotionally and sexually once she releases that control.


I agree submission is something that lays within someone not something that can be forced or taught but just like anything in life when you discover something it needs to be natured, helped and have the ability to grow. I am new in this journey this feels right I am smart and can tell the difference between an idea/fantasy and real life.

I had the chance to meet someone amazing on here and went far beyond my expectations I was truly blessed however life has ways of bringing things to a screeching halt and that is exactly what happen. No, I do not what to talk about however I did write about it go to my blog and read the post titled Rest Easy Angel thank you. Most people in my life made fun of me for never being in a relationship and being 23, I regret nothing I waited 8 years or so and refused to settle the wait was well worth it even though it was short lived I have no problem waiting another 8 or another 23 for that matter.


Right now this is the path I want to be on if it’s not for me that will show in time but if is and I am 100 percent sure it is the structure and stability I will get from giving up complete control will be peaceful and I look forward to it. I am a very patience person Rome was not built in a day but once finished it was magical. So if it doesn’t happen right now in my life that’s okay there is time but if it does happen right now I’m looking forward to building my Rome.

Interest as of 11/22/2020 the more I learn the more I may add:
Bondage
Sensory deprivation
Orgasm control/ denial
Flogging/impact play
Spankings
Hair pulling
After care
Kneeling
Giving oral
Forced play
Humiliation (only while in scene)
Role play



Send me a message titled “Movie” and tell me what your favorite movie is at least I know you read my entire profile and made it to the end. If you send me anything else, I won’t respond, and I will delete your message but feel free to try again (bonus if it’s a Disney movie) because if you can’t take the 5-7 minutes to read my profile and get a glimpse of who I am to see if our interest semi-align then you don’t deserve to get to know me at all.

 






== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Submissive
99% Slave
95% Boy/Girl
91% Rope bunny
90% Degradee
80% Ageplayer
74% Voyeur
64% Masochist
61% Primal (Prey)
55% Experimentalist
44% Pet
43% Brat
42% Vanilla
37% Exhibitionist
16% Rigger
1% Brat tamer
0% Primal (Hunter)
0% Daddy/Mommy
0% Dominant
0% Degrader
0% Owner
0% Master/Mistress
0% Sadist 0% Switch

Learning and Growing.
The Play part of it is important however being able to carry a well articulated conversation is even more important.

Anal, knifes play, water spots, anything with children. As I grow so will the List

Through trial and error I know this I don’t want an online only relationship/mentorship of any kind

I want a friendship that has the potential to become a long term relationship. So please if a sexual connection only or quickly is what you want please pass me by, I’m not your girl. But I truly hope you find her?


Exhausted getting messages from people who didn’t take the time to read my profile I’ve read it slow and timed myself it takes less than 5 minutes.

May 23, 2022

May 13, 2020